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Are you an empath or have empath traits?
Do you tend to get extremely exhausted after going to crowded areas?
Have you ever met someone for the first time and immediately feel an ache in your body…and sometime later, find out that this person is having physical symptoms in the same areas in his or her body?
Do you often feel a sharp pain in your heart as another person shares about her struggles with you?
Have you ever an unexplained wave of negative energy when visiting a new place such that you feel sick immediately?
If any of the above is true, you may be someone with empath traits.
The above examples appear in my family, friends, clients and most of all, myself!
After reflecting on my own experiences and knowing others who have them, I realise that I know a fair bit about what life for one having empath traits is like.
What’s Life Like for You with Empath Traits
Essentially, an empath is someone who feels the emotions of others as if they are his or her own.
If you have little understanding and self-awareness about what it means to have empath traits, life can possibly be a miserable and trying one.
You often feel vulnerable due to a heightened level of sensitivity. To protect yourself, you may find it necessary to stay away from others. There is a wall that you’ve built psychologically, to keep safe. You believe that no one understands your world and that it is best that you are alone. And so, you keep to yourself mostly.
Also, because you easily sponge up other people’s emotions, it can get to a point of being unbearable. You feel constantly tired, drained of energy. If not careful, you enter into a state of despair with no idea that you are carrying the emotional weight of 100 persons on your back. In a state of depression, you may entertain suicidal thoughts or adopt addictive behavior so that you no longer have to “feel” any more.
Still, there are positive empath traits to be aware of. You tend to be highly intuitive and your empathetic nature attracts people easily. With the ability to feel the emotions of others, you are able to create connections quickly. This ability is helpful if you are in the healing profession, coaching/counselling or in the creative arts field.
By undertaking self-discovery and creating better awareness, you can learn to survive and cope in a world that could appear harsh to you at first. Additionally, you can draw on your strengths to create a more empowering life for yourself. Find out more as you read on
Understand the Distinction Between an Empath and Someone who is Merely Empathtic
There is a difference between being an empath and someone who is merely empathic and not an empath. It can be difficult to make a distinction. Most people will fall into the latter group. As humans, we are naturally sensitive and can practice empathy. For example, anyone with a fair level of sensitivity can feel sorry for the victim of an unfortunate event.
Notwithstanding, any difference is not a matter of black and white as there can be shades in between. People can have varying degrees of empath attributes. Some more developed than others.
What differentiates between being a true empath and someone who is highly sensitive is not just about taking on the emotions of another. As indicated in my questions at the start of this article, empaths with heightened intuitive abilities can also experience physical sensations with messages about another person. They are able to pick up and feel affected by the energy of a place even though they are not consciously aware about what had happened there previously.
If you are having trouble understanding why you are always feeling depleted in energy and have issues with emotional overwhelm, it would help to find out more about empath traits. Emotional sponging can be exhausting on a day to day basis. Essentially you are carrying other people’s karmic burdens as well. Your belief system is also geared to helping others at your own expense. Finally, you sacrifice your own goals for the sake of keeping those around you happy.
Knowing that you are an empath or have empath traits helps you with coping strategies. You learn what to avoid, with increased self-awareness. Also, you learn about how to relate to others in a safe way that is also within a healthy personal boundary. What’s key to realise is that some form of learning needs to be involved.
Empath Traits: 30 Signs to Determine if You Have Them
Find out how many of the following empath traits you have…
1. You experience intense emotions suddenly only to discover that someone whom you love or gotten to know is going through the same.
2. You start to feel a physical ache in a particular part of your body when meeting a stranger, only to find out that the other person is experiencing the same physical ailment in his or hers.
3. You experience migraine headaches, nausea and/or a wave of negative energy when you enter a place where people were feeling depressed or sad previously.
4. When you are in a place full of people, you experience energy overwhelm and feel extrenely exhausted thereafter; even though you have not done anything physically active.
5. You feel sick whenever you take the public transport.
6. You are able to tell when someone is lying, simply through feeling the energy of his or her response.
7. You can’t seem to focus (with a scatter in energy) when there are other people around, but you are calm and fine on your own.
8. You take what you feel very seriously and find it extremly hard to just let your feelings go. It is as if you identify yourself with the emotion and the feeling sticks!
9. You often feel unwell even though the doctor may not be able to esatily detect what’s wrong with you physically.
10. You have a low pain threshold and you have a huge aversion to taking injection shots or being in situations where there is blood involved.
11. You often end up as a doormat as you have difficulty saying “no” to others and feel the need to please the wishes of others.
12. You feel the CONSTANT need to express your emotions and what you feel through the arts be it dance, acting or drawing.
13. You have a great deal of compassion and being very thoughtful, show a heightened level of care for others.
14. You are drawn to metaphysics, due to your ability to feel and sense energy.
15. You tend to attract paranormal experiences. Spirits like to convey messages through giving you emotional impulses.
16. You experience mood swings, going into highs and lows, without warning.
17. You often find others offloading their problems and sharing their secrets with you, even if they had not told their closest family and friends.
17. You prefer to avoid meat because you can feel the suffering of the animal.
18. You often feel physically ill when you watch the news or listen to the radio about violence and cruelty.
19. You have fewer problems with knowing what others feel than being clear about what you think and feel.
20. You tend to escape from the real world by adopting addictive behavior such as drinking or playing video games.
21. You are sensitive to old things such as vintage items, ancient relics and second hand stuff. Tell-tale signs are such as developing a headache, feeling nauseated, being sick in the stomach, turning cold and a rush of nervous energy.
22. You also experience symptoms such as getting a migraine or goosebumps on your arms when entering some historical place (eg. burial grounds of mass killings) or ancient ruins, even though you feel particularly drawn to visiting such destinations.
23. You crave for freedom to do as you please, rather than be bogged down by rules and regimes.
23. With your caring nature, you are drawn to the helping profession or doing some form of volunteer work.
24. You have a strong affinity for animals, nature and people.
25. When telling or sharing stories, you tend to describe emotional details vividly by tuning into your feelings.
26. You tend to “block” out others, in attempts to protect your energy and prefer to be reclusive.
27. You tend to have allergy problems. Skin issues, in particular, are about establishing personal boundary. Read about my own experiences with skin problems.
28. You have the strong tendency to stand up for the weak and disadvantaged, as you are able to feel their struggles.
29. You enjoy solitude a lot more than others, and often need to take me time to recharge from having a flat battery.
30. You are guided more by your heart than logic, when making decisions. It’s possible that your decisions change in accordance to mood swings.
One trait or two that you’ve checked off the list does not necessarily make anyone an empath. The crucial difference is the propensity to absorb emotions around you. Like a sponge that easily absorbs liquid, it’s the same for empaths. It’s not surprising that many empaths or those with empath traits are often negatively described as being highly emotional!
What Can You Do with Empath Traits
Many with empath traits struggle with not knowing what to do at first. It was the same for me too. I could not explain the constant fatigue I was feeling at one stage. Depressive episodes would hit me when I get stuck in my emotional pain body. Fortunately, I have learned how to survive and get on top of my challenges.
May I declare…
Being an empath or someone with empath traits is not a death sentence.
Neither should it be an excuse to isolate yourself from the world.
As an empath healer, you can learn to “feel” your clients’ energy just enough to help them and not holding on to the disruption after the session. It’s certainly what I do for release and detachment. If you are a Reiki, Quantum Touch or any hands-on energy healing, you need to practice this.
A big part about taking charge of your life is about creating mindfulness. Mindfulness is needed to discern what is truly your stuff and what are others and to establish clear boundaries. Start by recognising if you have got empath traits.
Transform from being a struggling empath to one who is not just surviving….but also who has the ability to thrive in this world!
Love and abundance always,
Share Your Thoughts
Identified any empath traits in yourself? Share which ones.
What’s life like for you as an empath or someone with empath traits.
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Born in St. Ann, Jamaica on February 6th, 1945, Robert Nesta Marley became the global face of reggae music and Rastifarian beliefs. More than his reputation as an entertainer, though, Bob Marley inspired a worldwide following with his philosophy of life and his commitment to spreading love and peace. When he died in 1981 of […]
Note: “Letters of Love from Above” is a series of letters that I would imagine a loving Heavenly Father might write to you. If you are uncomfortable with that idea, imagine Life, or The Universe, Truth or Karma, Mother Earth, Mother Teresa, or Mother Goose, for that matter, is writing the letter. But for me, it is a loving God reaching down to His sons and daughters as I would imagine that reach looking like in words.
My Dear Child,
Do you feel lost and alone? Trapped in circumstances you
don’t feel are in your control to change?
Are you stuck, desperate, empty, disillusioned?
Do you feel abandoned, forgotten, discarded, left behind,
Has life been turned upside down and pulled inside out?
Are you in pain, broken, smothered, depressed, unable to
move or breathe or think or hope?
You may even be angry at Me and want to throw in the towel
and walk off the field.
But please, don’t.
Stay in the game.
The Sun Will Rise Again
You need to know that the mountain you are climbing does not
rise forever. There is a peak. You will reach it.
I know that you may not feel like holding on anymore, much
less climbing any longer. Your arms ache, your legs are cramping and your head is
throbbing with an ache that won’t go away. The emptiness you feel is bearing
down on you, closing in on you, pushing at you, scraping and scratching at the
walls of who you think or thought you were.
But only I can see the end from the beginning.
And I need you to know that the sun will rise again. The seasons will
change, the pain will fade, the
intensity of the darkness you feel engulfing you into its nothingness will eventually be replaced with hints
of light and hints of love and hints of joy once more. And then that light will
grow. And so will the love and so will the joy.
So I want you to know that there are better times ahead. The
pain will fade. The emptiness will slowly be filled. The darkness will be
replaced by growing degrees of light.
If it feels like there is no way out, that light will never
shine again in your life, that there is no use continuing, trying, smiling,
wishing, wanting anymore, I need to remind you that you are my creation. You
are my child. I am your Father.
That means more than you can understand right now.
But this much I can ensure you: There is a part of me inside
of you. There burns within you the spark of divinity. The flame of eternal
potential still flickers in your darkness even if you can’t see it or feel it
You are of infinite worth to Me.
The love I have for you is greater, stronger and deeper than
the bitterness or disappointment or pain or sadness you feel right now.
I know it feels like you are wandering aimlessly in an
eternity of emptiness and pain, each desolate day bleeding into the next
mind-numbing day of desperation. But believe me when I tell you that it is
decidedly not at eternity.
I Know Eternity
Please don’t take this the wrong way when I say that your
trials are just a blink of an eye in the eternal scheme of things. I know it
doesn’t feel that way, of course. But your perspective is tied to your
experiences. Mine is not. My perspective stretches through the eternities. And
that, by the way, is where my focus is too.
My perspective reaches far beyond the horizon or your vision.
Yours is on mortality. Mine is on immortality. Yours is now. Mine is forever.
Yours is on your suffering. Mine is on what your suffering will produced inside
of you in the long run.
Mountains to Climb
All my children, therefore, have mountains to climb, just
like One once had a cross to bear.
You see, valleys don’t climb. Despite the comfort and beauty
and peace of warm sun-lit valleys, you would be left at the end of the day,
unrefined, your potentials unmet, your character untried, and your soul would
be no better off than before entering the valley.
Valleys are flat. But mountains rise.
You were never meant to live out your days in equanimity,
comfortably stuck in your comfort zone. Life is all about rising, about
growing, about climbing and becoming.
Not in relation to anyone else, but in relation to your own potential.
I know what that potential is and it is so much more than you even have the
capacity to imagine.
So my role as your Heavenly Father is to stoke those coals
of potential, to allow you to pass through the chilling winters and scorching summers
of life, to sometimes descend into the dark abyss of pain to help forge inside
of you something so much more than you can see right now.
Mountains, as you certainly know, require much from those
who climb them. They test you, putting callouses on your feet and muscles in
your legs and backs and shoulders. They require strength and commitment,
endurance and a willingness to push beyond your limits. And so they build
inside of us those qualities of eternity that have not yet matured on their
By the time you reach the top of your mountain, you will
have become someone a bit stronger and more experienced than you were before you
started. You will be filled with more confidence and capacity. You will be
tougher and stronger and kinder and more compassionate.
So please, hang on. Push on. Endure on.
Life is about Climbing
I have seen untold numbers of people over the millennia come
so close to the end, so close to achievement, to success, to victory, to
mastery, to breakthrough, then quit, never realizing that had they simply held
on a moment longer, they would have found the beginning of peace and joy and
So please endure as well as you can. I will be there,
walking in your every step. I will be there in the cool morning breeze as a
reminder that I have not forgotten you. I will be there in the songbird’s
whistle reminding you that you have not been forsaken. I will be there in the
warm sun on your face, the hug of a friend, the smile of a child, the morning
glow of a distant sunrise as a reminder that there will always be new days and
there will always be cause for hope.
If you are never called to climb your own personal mountain,
where would your toughness come from? Where would your confidence that you can climb future mountains come from? Where would your perseverance and inner
strength and even your compassion for others on similar journeys, your ability
to inspire others up their own mountains come from? And what about humility and
a tender heart and the ability to mourn with those who mourn?
You are becoming a better person than you ever could have in
the flat valleys of content specifically because of the mountains in your life
that call you to climb higher than you ever would have gone on your own, higher
than you thought you could conceivably climb.
You are More than you Think
But I know how high you can actually climb. And I know the kind of person you will be on the
other side of your mountain.
Please let me be clear that I’m not saying that I directed
the drunk driver to drink or the shooter to shoot or the cancer to spread or the
despot to abuse or the economy to collapse.
But what I am
saying is that whatever your particular set of horrible, painful, desperate
circumstances may be, that your bitter challenges can still lead to beautiful
things if you are willing to climb.
Turning Problems into Opportunities
I don’t cause bad people to do bad things to good people.
But I do know how you can turn the pain into something powerfully motivating
and transformative in your life. I know how you can turn anger into
forgiveness, hate into love, anxiety into peace and despair into joy.
I don’t take away problems so much as I help you take
advantage of those problems. I help you turn negatives into positives. I help
you to spot the silver linings to the dark clouds of life. I point out that
even when everything seems to be falling apart, in fact, most of life isn’t.
There is much to be grateful for. There is much to keep hope alive.
Every painful step is an opportunity for you to learn
patience, to learn tolerance, to learn endurance, to develop your faith, to
lean on Me, to take the next step when the next step seems scary or lonely or
empty or pointless.
The steeper the mountain, the harder the climb, for sure.
But when you stay the course, you will also find that steep mountains lead to
the most breathtaking views as well.
One of the most basic purposes of life is to grow, to
change, to improve, to polish the rough parts of your life, to buff up the
murky raw materials, turning you into something better, higher, more
passionately committed to a life of love.
And that, to me, is the most beautiful view.
That process, though, like any refiner’s fire, can hurt
tremendously. But keep in mind that your pain is evidence that you are, in
fact, in that fire, refining your very being, preparing you for better, higher,
more eternal things.
So please don’t give up. Push forward yet another day.
I will not abandon you in your trials. I will not forsake
you in your tribulation. While the challenges you face are largely yours to
endure, here’s what I certainly will
do as you reach to me in your darkest hours:
I will hold your hand.
I will point the way.
I will wipe away your tears.
I will listen.
I will understand.
When you cry to me, I will come to you.
You will sense me in your heart. You will hear me in the truths
you will learn as you climb. You will feel Me lighten your load as your
shoulders are made stronger, more able to bear the weight of your trials and
I will encourage you and inspire you and reveal myself to
you along the way, as you fight, as you struggle, as you work, as you endure,
and as you climb.
View from the Top
There is a beautiful view from up here. There is peace and
joy and the profoundest contentment born of the profoundest accomplishment.
And remember, and never forget, that I love you. More than
you can possibly understand. But that love motivates Me to allow you to climb
higher than you otherwise would. Because, in the end, it is up here, higher
than you currently are, that I dwell.
So come meet me on the mountain. I’ll be there with you,
leading you, comforting you, healing you, directing you, correcting you,
encouraging you, inspiring you, and revealing Myself to you in the all the
details of your life.
The personal mountain you are climbing now will help you
learn to see me there. And how could I possibly remove that opportunity from
Your Father in Heaven
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The last two articles in this series have helped us build a solid appreciation for the value of using questions to change both our focus and our mindset. We also learned exactly what kind of questions are needed to channel our focus in a positive direction. Now it’s time to consider some specific ways that we can make practical application of this empowering skill and put it to use in our lives.
To fully benefit from the power of questions we need a way to integrate what we have learned into our daily routine. Specifically, we need to develop the habit of intentionally using questions to direct our focus and control our mindset in a constructive manner.
Start with your morning mindset
Every morning when you wake up it is a natural part of your thinking process to ask yourself questions about the upcoming day. So, this is a perfect opportunity to influence your mindset in a positive way. Asking the right questions first thing in the morning will help ensure that your focus is pointed in a productive and empowering direction all day long.
So here’s a list of possible questions that you can start asking yourself every morning beginning tomorrow. These questions are specifically designed to have a positive effect on your mindset, especially your levels of joy, commitment and self-esteem.
1) What is there about my life that makes me feel happy right now?
2) What is going on in my life today that I can get excited about?
3) What do I feel truly grateful for right now?
4) What am I really looking forward to today?
5) Who do I love and who loves me?
If you have difficulty answering any of these questions simply insert the word “could” into the question. For example, in question #1 – What is there about my life that could make me feel happy right now?
Take some time to consider these questions as you go about your morning routine. Remember, it’s not the asking of questions that shifts your mindset, it’s the answers. As you come up with your own answers to each question, be sure to take a moment and experience how that answer makes you feel.
Do it every day for at least ten days!
By developing a routine of asking yourself questions like these every morning, you will begin to create a pattern. After a while, not only will the questions come automatically, but so will an increased level of appreciation for the answers. The answers to these questions are an important part of what makes life worth living and creating a positive shift in your focus regarding those answers will also shift your predominant mindset.
Being aware of your blessings first thing in the morning can completely change your entire day. Those questions will follow you throughout the day and you will find yourself looking for more reasons to feel happy, to get excited and to be grateful. This is a perfect example of the power of simple questions to shift your mindset, change your focus, increase your motivation, and make you feel good about your life.
Remember, the whole purpose of this exercise is to shift your mindset by taking conscious control of what you allow your mind to focus on. So another important point to consider is this: These questions are designed to trigger your mind to think in positive directions and to discover encouraging answers. They are not designed for overanalyzing and scrutinizing your every thought and feeling.
So don’t let yourself get too carried away. Know when to quit asking and start answering.
When designing questions always include a positive assumption
When you are designing questions for yourself, make sure that they always include a positive assumption about the answer. For example, all of the questions above assume something. Question #1 assumes that there is something to feel happy about right now just as question #2 assumes there is something to be excited about. These type of assumptions give your mind both direction and motivation.
The mind considers those assumptions to be facts; consequently it will find answers that support those facts. By constructing your own personal questions this way you will empower yourself with the ability to shift your mindset at will and to change almost any aspect of your life.
This is part 3 in a series of 3 articles about Using Questions to Change Your Mindset.
For the rest of the story visit…
Use questions to Change your Mindset – Part 1
Use questions to Change your Mindset – Part 2
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