Month: April 2021

Magical Mornings – How to Get More Done Before Breakfast


There is something special about waking up early each day.

It is a secret sauce for getting a heck of a lot more done in life.

Almost 3 weeks ago I decided to change my daily schedule by waking up at 4am each day.

4am you say?!

You bet!

Let me tell you how to do it shortly.

But first, let me quickly tell you why I have chosen to do this.

Why wake up so early?

There are literally zero distractions. Your willpower is at its highest. You can focus 100 percent on whatever your biggest goal in life is.

Think about this:

If you were to wake up at 4am each day and get in 3 hours of deep, focused, work before most people wake up at around 7am, that totals 21 hours of work a week, 82 hours of work a month, and over 1,000 hours of work for the year.

1,000 hours of focused, deep work a year is equal to 125x 8hour working days… but these are not your typical 8hr working days with interruptions, meetings, and breaks. These are 8 hours of FOCUSED, DEEP WORK on your most important goals.

Taking it a step further, 125x 8 hr working days is equal to working full-time, in a deep and focused state on your most important goals for 25 weeks of the year! That is just shy of 6 months.

It is crazy how these numbers stack up.

And all it takes it simply waking up earlier and getting focused on what matters most and being consistent with it.

Does it really work?

Most definitely!

In the last three weeks I have:

  • Completely updated my Change Your Life program.
  • Ran a Flash Sale for you guys.
  • Overhauled my website – new theme, new homepage, mostly a lot of backend and design elements that will make things simpler moving forward (check it out if interested and tell me what you think).
  • Created a side hustle which I have been hustling on for the last couple of weeks (unfortunately it is not going as well as I had planned… I rapidly launched this to test the idea and so far, it is a slow start).
  • Created two other multi-page websites (fully designed and complete) as part of the new side hustle.
  • Got more exercise in… being able to go for a walk or a bicycle ride at 5am while the sun is rising is incredibly special… there is something about it that is magical.
  • Read 3 books… although this one is because I have changed my night-time routine (to help me start effectively with my morning).

Just writing the above makes me feel in awe of this process. It is simply amazing the output that can be created when this time stacks up each day.

But it is not as simple as it sounds… mostly because I have three young children between the ages of 1 and 5. So, as any parent would understand, trying to stick to a schedule is incredibly hard!

The mornings are the easy part because everyone is sleeping. The hardest part is getting to sleep on time.

I need at LEAST 8 hours of sleep each night to perform at my best. So, to wake up at 4am means getting to bed no later than 8pm. But even then, it is impossible to get a full 8 hours of sleep in because my kids are always waking up each night. I have not had a full-night’s sleep for 5 years now, except for the odd occasion when I am away for business travel. Any parents with young children reading this know exactly what I am talking about!

Here is the reality.

I have only actually woken up at 4am twice during this time (well, one time I got up at 3:57am which was ever better).

To get an 8 hour sleep I really need “bed time” of 8.5 hours, and preferably 9 hours.

Getting to bed at 8pm is tricky. My kids are often still mucking around until 8pm, or sometimes even 8:30pm!

And then there is that time I used to spend with my wife – after the kids are sleep and before our own sleep. This was our quality time together. Going to bed at 8pm took this way.

As a result, I have been tweaking my strategy over the past few weeks and my typical day now looks like:

  • Bed-time between 8:30pm and 9pm
  • Awake at 5:30am.

So, my goal of 4am has only been achieved twice. But that’s ok, because every other day over the past 3 weeks I have been up by 6am at the very latest.

This has given me at least one hour every day, and probably about 1 hour and 45minutes on average over the past 3 weeks to really focus deeply on these goals.

Even just 1 hour of deep, focused, work a day, will tally up to 45 rock solid 8 hr days with no breaks, which tallies 2 and a half months of full-time work a year. And again, this is time purely on deep, focused, work. Incredible!

How do you do it?

I found it quite simple.

You simply set a strict rule for yourself in terms of your bedtime and wake up time.

Make sure you push all your bed-time rituals forward to meet your deadline. ie, stop drinking caffeine earlier in the day, stop all your screen time earlier than usual, eat earlier if need be, and so forth.

The main thing is to really internalise the benefits of doing this. The primary benefit being that you will get undistracted, highly focused work done on your most important goals in life. Whether that is working on a big project at work, perhaps it is doing your side hustle, or perhaps it is writing your book, or perhaps it is getting your daily exercise in.

Whatever it is, you need to internalise the benefit of doing this and achieving it.

The other thing is to plan the night before what you will do in the morning.

You do not want to wake up, hit your desk, and then use your willpower and waste time trying to figure out what you are going to do.

Instead, have it planned… know exactly what you are going to do.

Perhaps its that you will write 1,000 words of your book, or that you are going to go for a bicycle ride through the park, or that you are going to research a certain topic.

Having it planned means that within five minutes of waking up, you are focused and doing productive work.

My first 3 weeks have been amazing.

The challenge for me now is to keep this up. I have no intention of stopping this.

I challenge you to experience the magic of the mornings.

This is the time you can really change your life, by working at it every single day.

When you win your mornings, you win the day.

Are you with me?


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52 Uplifting Morning Mantras To Power Start To Your Day


What are some good mantras to use in the morning to give your day an early boost? And what exactly is a morning meditation mantra, anyway?  You know the value of meditation as a daily habit. But your mind wanders so much, from the beginning and throughout your meditation time, you’d like some help setting …

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3 Dysfunctional Patterns that Can Affect You Financially


Are you in any of the 3 following scenarios…

1. Do you tend to “check out” every time you need to look at your finances or have a money discussion…and it is because you are feeling averse, nervous and fearful?

2. Do you get into frequent arguments with your spouse over money matters, …which makes you secretly wish if he can “just measure up” and provide the family with a more comfortable lifestyle, so that these conflicts can stop?
3. Do you find yourself going through erratic spending patterns…for example, there are times when you behave as if you are totally broke even when you’ve got money in the bank…and then there are other times when you are spending lavishly on unnecessary items? 

If you are a woman with any of the above patterns, this article is meant for you. 

As the patterns drive our behaviour, they often result in poorer outcomes. Even though times have changed, many women continue to suffer financially from having a unhealthy relationship with money. While these patterns originate eons ago, they are still prevalent today.

Recently, when I highlighted what some of these dysfunctional patterns are to workshop participants, they found it eye opening. Suddenly, they realised they had been in self-sabotage. These patterns had been in their way for getting a better grip on their finances. 

In this article, I’d like to share what were the 3 common ones that they have acknowledged to (and which applies to the above 3 scenarios mentioned at the top of this article)…

What the 3 Dysfunctional Patterns That Affect Women Are 

1. Money Avoidance

You apply money avoidance whether in looking at your credit card spending, investing, working, contributions etc. Whenever it is time to have a serious financial discussions, you suddenly have a stomach ache, there is something else more urgent that you need to attend to or you can’t show up. If they happen often enough, they are signs of money avoidance.

It also happens when you prefer to have someone look through the numbers in your accounts and you operate in the blind faith that “no news is good news.”

2. Money Fantasy

You adopt the fantasy of having a Prince Charming rescue you, so that he can fill the gaps of your needs; especially financial ones. The idea may have come from the Cinderella fairy tales that you have been fed on when you were young. However, buying into fantasy ideas may prove to be disempowering in your real adult life. 

3. Money Confusion

When you show up with erratic and inconsistent behaviour that affects your finances, it could stem from confusion. Some confusing messages could be related to gender. Confusion is often rooted in mixed messages that you have internalised whether they come from your parents or from society about women “not being good enough“, “being of the inferior sex”,  “not being able to manage money” or “women are bad with money” and yet having to thrive financially in your adult life.

When driven by confusion or chaos, you may take care of someone else’s needs over yours or expect others to take care of your needs excessively. You are unclear about your financial priorities. Or you may make the unwise decisions in your spending or investing altogether. 

Learn to Take Charge

Unfortunately, money avoidance can create negative consequences. These days, no one can run away from having to handle money to some degree. In fact, the more responsibility you take on money matters, the more you stand to gain.

It is crucial to know that we don’t need anyone else to rescue us and that we have what it takes to contribute meaningfully, even if we choose to stay home and be the main caregivers to our children. We can still play an important part in managing finances. 

The great news is that once you bring light to and make a definite positive shift away from dysfunctional patterns, your finances will start to improve.

It’s helpful to realise about addressing issues at root cause.

Such dysfunctional patterns did not happen out of the blue.

As we know, in most cultures during olden times, women were not encouraged to work. We were financially dependent on the men in the household. Men were the ones who brought in the bacon, while the women stayed home to take care of the kids and household.

Thus, women in the past had thoughts, beliefs and ideas that are rather different from those in modern age, Even though those days are no longer present, unfortunately, we may have inherited some of the beliefs and ideas from our mothers and grandmothers. With no or little experience to manage money, women in the past could also have developed a fear of looking into financial matters.

Hence, if you have any of the following signs…

* irrational fear when it comes to money matters,

* where you are feeling crippled by anxiety when needing to look at budgeting or investing,

* feeling nausea when you need to ask for the money, 

these disruptions need to be released at root cause, so that we can install a new set of empowering beliefs that will serve us today.

Forge A New Modern Feminine Role

The women clients I tend to attract have the same dream: financial independence, freedom, personal fulfilment, community and doing the work that we love.

We would like to create a life that balance our needs and dreams. In anything, I have observed that the lockdown restrictions are now increasingly making us even more aware about the benefits of running their own business and working from home (well, I began mine 10 years ago). 

Hence, if you are an aspiring female entrepreneur, a coach, an energy healer, a freelance offering your digital marketing service or if you have already started running a business online, there is no better time than now to ride these changes. You are here in the right space, at right time, redefining a new role. Very importantly, you are creating a new definition for the self, for your sisters, daughters and for future generations. 

What is true is that if you are a business owner, having money blocks in the way can stop you from generating success. Hence it is imperative that you clear them. Fortunately, as I have discovered, it is possible to release disruptions and rewrite past beliefs with more empowering ones (with an integration at the somatic level).

The journey to freedom truly starts with observing what your behaviour is like and identifying if there are any dysfunctional patterns. 

Love and Abundance Always, 
Evelyn Lim
Abundance Life Coach

Your Comments 
Do you have any of the 3 above patterns? Share your thoughts and comments below. 

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