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This means that loving ourselves is not a mere one-time or a short-term exercise; whether we are going for a therapy session, a singing bowl meditation to heal our heart chakra or buying ourselves a branded bag so that we can feel better.
Self-love is much more than any of these.
Some of us may have the expectation that self-love can happen magically overnight. The truth is that for those of us with trouble loving and accepting themselves unconditionally, it takes consistent work. It’s certainly been my experience.
Over the years, life would throw me a new challenge again and again and due to being triggered, I’d find myself reverting to the same pattern of feeling unlovable and unloved. At first, I felt disappointed and bitter that none of the healing I did appear to have worked. It would seem that doing inner work was pointless.
Yet, upon review, I realised that my early efforts were sporadic to begin with. Eventually, after seeing how I was caught in repeated patterns, I began to realise that self-love is not going to be an overnight or a one-time healing thing. It finally occurred to me that if I am interested to have enough of a breakthrough, I need to regard self-love as being more of a practice.
Self-love is an inside job. In my book Self-Love Secrets, I shared about engaging our spiritual heart chakra for self-love. The love we feel is towards ourselves. To begin with, it takes a mindfulness practice for us to connect with our inner child whenever we are feeling triggered.
For healing to happen, we work on letting go of our hurt, sadness and pain. These emotions could be held by our inner child. Any deep work would involve letting go of the subconscious belief of “not good enough” and “unlovable” to “I am lovable” and “I am enough”. Because we have been conditioned to hold negative beliefs about ourselves, making a positive change can take time and effort.
Self-love is a mindfulness practice where we pay attention to what we are thinking and feeling at deep levels. We are alert to ourselves whenever we go into negative self-talk or whenever we are feeling emotionally depleted. It calls for us to be mindful throughout the day if we are to stop the unhealthy habit of self-criticism and judgment.
When we create conscious awareness often enough, we are better able to shift the relationship we have on the inside or with our inner child. No longer do we ride on the emotional swing to loving ourselves one day and next day, being in rejection. What’s key is holding on to the energy of love for ourselves (and our inner child) on a consistent basis. We are called to be compassionate and gentle inwards, no matter what happens.
Some promises that I make to myself…
- I do the mirror work of facing myself even on days when I don’t feel like it.
- I connect with my inner child whenever she is feeling hurt or scared.
- I scan through every part of my body and genuinely accept and love the parts that are imperfect daily.
- I abide by healthy boundaries and not give my power away.
- I undertake healthy choices for mind, body and spirit wellness every day.
- I prioritise investing in my own growth.
- I own my vulnerabilities and accept myself anyway.
Cultivate Tiny Habits for Self-Love Mindfulness Practice
To make self-love a practice, it would help to cultivate its application as a habit. This means planning for activities that support self-love or care into our calendar.
“Create a constellation of habits, tiny in size but big on impact.”
– BJ Fogg, Tiny Habits
For instance, we may decide to schedule meditation, emotional healing or mirror work into our time table on a regular basis. Or we may commit to seeing our therapist or coach for emotional or inner child healing weekly. We may decide to incorporate healthy lifestyle choices and we endeavour to show up authentically. Listening to subliminal audios, reading books and journalling on a consistent basis can also potentially help.
The intention is to prioritise such activities. This means that we stop giving ourselves excuses like “no time” or “later”. We may even have accountability buddies to make sure that we keep these promises to ourselves. Where we are constantly triggered, these incidences serve as red flag that our energy tank is being depleted and that it is time to refuel ourselves with love.
We are what we repeatedly do. Self-love, as a mindfulness practice, involves the consistent application of tiny habits that enhance mind, body and spirit wellness. I make the practice of healthy self-love a priority and I hope you do too
Love and Abundance Always,
Self-Love Healing Specialist
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This is an article written by Social Life Expert David Morin.
8 years ago, I realized that something in my life had to change. I was tired of spending evenings and weekends on my own and promised myself to build a powerful social circle with a lot of close friends. The only problem was, I had no clue of how to proceed. So I started analyzing socially successful people to learn what they did differently. What I have found out has had a significant impact on my life and now I share these with you. This is what I found out.
1. They Focus on Their Positive Traits, not their Negative Ones
When you see socially successful people, what is one trait they all embody? They have self confidence. I started to realize that self confidence is something anyone can build up over time. These people have flaws like anyone else. But they are aware of what they actually do well.
There’s a huge power in focusing on your positive traits. When you do, you begin to form a healthy perspective of yourself. This will give you confidence you need to become more outgoing around others. As an exercise, if you had to list five positive traits about yourself, what would those be? Give these traits some thought every day.
2. They Live in the Moment, Not in Their Minds
Have you ever entered a party, and felt like there were pairs of eyes watching every move you made? When we experience this, we become very self aware and nervous. To counteract this, when you attend social gatherings it’s important to “force your mind out of your head”. When you detect that you’re wondering what others think of you, start asking yourself questions about the people around you instead. “How do these two people know each other?” “What is she working with?” “Where is he from?” In a study, people who were instructed to focus on their environment reported feeling much more self confident.
3. They are Outgoing
To become socially successful, you will have to take the initiative on occasion. Even if you’re not naturally born a social butterfly, being outgoing is something you can learn. Instead of waiting for someone to invite you to a party or gathering, find groups that interest you. Many cities have groups based on occupation, hobbies, religion or other interests where you can join to meet others. This is a great first step out of your comfort zone. When you do this, have confidence in knowing that others attending the group may have the same social anxieties as you do. Once you find a group, it’s important that you stay persistent and attend meetings regularly. The more you attend the more comfortable you will feel being there.
Note from Brendan: If you live in Sydney, I have established the Sydney Activity and Adventure Group which now has over 3,000 members. Join us for some fun sometime!
4. They are Adventurous
If you want to become more socially successful, it’s important that you open your mind to try new things. By trying new things such as taking a cooking class or learning karate, you expand your horizons, you acquire new skills and you meet people in the process. This is an excellent way to enrich your life and grow your social circle as a result. Is there something that you are interested in doing but haven’t tried yet? Try to realize that interest.
5. They are Great at Helping Others
Another trait that many socially successful people have is that they are willing to help others. Whether it’s finding volunteer opportunities or finding ways to help their friends, socially successful people are willing to go that extra mile. If you’re better than others at something and use your skills to help others out, people will respect you for it. You shouldn’t help people for the sake of making friends – then you risk coming off as needy. Help people because your skills would actually solve the problem they’re having.
What skills do you possess? In what way could you use these skills so help others? When you’re seen as a helpful person, people will become increasingly willing to give back. In that way, helpfulness is often a win-win.
6. They are Authentic
Simply, good reputations attract people. People of good character aren’t quick to judge, they won’t talk poorly about people behind their backs, they follow through on their commitments and they are friendly to others. When you practice these behaviors, others will notice your authenticity and this will make you more attractive as a person.
You’ve probably been in the situation where it’s tempting to talk down on something or someone. Try to resist that urge. If you refrain from this behavior long enough, the urge will eventually go away – it’s no longer part of your personality to talk down on others. People will trust you more with their thoughts and secrets as you’re seen as a reliable person.
Ultimately, these six steps are good mental approaches you can take to improve your social life. While you won’t experience an overnight transformation, these tips can help you develop the mindset needed to improve both your life and to help you gain more friendships.
Author Bio: David Morin is an entrepreneur at Social Pro Now.
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Update: I continue to get the same question on how to create a personal energy shield for protection, even though I posted the answer in this article (read below) years ago. Well, I have decided to update it with a Bonus Energy Shield tip#5 and a video.
Why is it important to create a personal energy shield for protection? You’d want to create one if you find yourself constantly drained or have the tendency to be sensitive to energy interferences.
I was prompted to write this article after posting 70 Ways for Self Care. In response to tip #57, Lei – a reader to the article – had asked in the blog comments how she could create one as she has found herself surrounded by toxic people. Well,, I’d like to respond to her question in two parts; one specifically on how to create a personal energy shield for protection and the other, on how to handle toxic relationships in another article.
Creating A Personal Energy Shield for Protection
Each and every one of us has the ability to create personal energy shields. Since we are all energy, shields are simply an extension of ourselves. In the movie, Star Wars, we know energy as The Force. As narrated in the movie, The Force is a binding, metaphysical and ubiquitous power in the universe of the galaxy. Yoda points out that “a Jedi’s strength flows from the Force” while training Luke Skywalker; Yoda also explains that “you must feel the Force around you.”
Because we are all connected, we can get affected by the negative energies of another. This happens when we have a weak energetic boundary. It is when we allow others to invade into our “space” or field. An energetic boundary is an invisible shield that screens incoming and outgoing energy. It keeps our own energy field within a closed, safe and contained system. Holistic well-being arises when we have healthy, vibrant and luminous personal energy.
Thus, the first thing to know is that no one can invade our “space” without our permission. A big part of energy leakage is caused by the failure on our part to take actions to protect ourselves. Oh yes, it is our personal responsibility. We cannot shift the entire blame to others if we leak energy. It is very important that we take steps for self-care and protection.
Signs of Energy Leakage
What are the signs of energy leakage? Signs can be one or more of the following: feeling persistently tired, a sense of chaotic energy, constantly ill, heaviness and migraines as a result of contact with others.
An empath or someone highly sensitive and compassionate can be like a “sponge”. Empaths are prone to soaking up unwanted energy from others. They unconsciously absorb the feelings, difficulties or pain of others. When they do, they carry an extra load of negative energy that can affect their clarity.
The thing is to remain vigilant if this is the case for you. You need to learn how to shield yourself appropriately, even whilst you are sympathetic to the problems of another and wish to help.
Types of Energy Shield
There are many ways that you can create a personal energy shield for protection, such as visualising that you are inside a cobalt-blue egg, circle of love, roses and so on.
All variations are just as effective if and only if conscious intention is used to create one. Random thinking does not count. You won’t also want to create a weak and sloppy one with holes. The idea is to focus your mind and use your senses to experience the shield.
I share one variation of an energy shield that will be useful for Lei, since she needs to protect herself from toxic people.
Pink Rose Quartz and Mirrors Personal Energy Shield for Protection
1. Be quiet for a while.
2. Release any stresses or tensions that you feel and relax.
3. Take in a few deep breaths.
4. Focus your mind on creating an energy shield using light from source. Make this shield cobalt blue as it is the colour for protection.
5. Set the intention first. Intention matters. An example goes like this:
I set the intention for an energy shield of Divine Love, Light and Wisdom to protect me from all interfering dissonant energies to Pure Source.
6. For this shield, visualise and tangibly feel yourself surrounded by a wall of mirrors – around, over and under. The mirrors face out. Hence, if there is negative energy that is directed towards you, it is reflected back outwards. Your personal energy shield for protection is completely sealed so that no external negative energy can enter.
7. At the same time, make the intention to allow only love to pass through both ways.
8. With you inside this shield, you may want to visualise yourself surrounded and embraced by the energy of pink rose quartz.
9. See, sense and feel the completeness of the energy shield for a few moments. Hold that in place with your intention.
10. For your future reference, make a mental note of how the shield feels like. This will make it easy for you to bring it back into existence whenever you need it. You will need to repeat steps 1-9 as the shield dissipates over time.
Bonus Energy Shield Tip #1. You can also call upon your spiritual team for extra protection from all people who are toxic and negative. Don’t be surprised when you receive evidence of their support.
Bonus Energy Shield Tip #2. Before you step out of your room in the mornings, make creating personal energy shields as part of your getting up ritual! If you perceive that there are any gaps, cracks or holes, just repair it with new mirrors.
Bonus Energy Shield Tip #3: The Mirrors Protection Shield is also excellent if you need to go into a crowded space. Protect yourself before entering a bus, train or shopping mall.
Bonus Energy Shield Tip #4: You can also create your own protection shields using essential oils. In fact, if you need to apply energy shields regularly and for convenience purposes, consider creating aura protection with essential oils.
Bonus Energy Shield Tip #5: Create a personal energy shield for your inner child to protect her from taking on negative energies. It’s a way to keep her safe from harm.
How to Create a Personal Energy Shield – Video Update
Share Your Favorite Personal Energy Shield for Protection
Share your favorite visualisation for an energy shield, if you have one.
Love and Abundance always,
Abundance Alchemy Life Coach
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Note from M2bH: No one enters a marriage expecting it to fall apart. No one wants a marriage to fail—at least not at the beginning. There are steps that can be taken to help heal wounds and resolve issues and return love to the marital relationship. We encourage you to take those steps.
But some marriages are entered into inadvisably. Sometimes people change and love withers and abusive language and behavior replaces the thoughtful attention that defined the relationship in its happier years.
There are often feelings of shame and embarrassment, regret and disappointment, loneliness and a sense of failure that follow a divorce. But unhappiness is not your destined lot in life for having severed a marital relationship. Happiness can return. It can be rebuilt and rediscovered.
For those of you who have gone through a divorce and still struggle to find your way back to joy, today’s post is a guest write-up from Jade Gallagher meant to offer a way back to happiness.
There is no need to feel like your life has reached a dead end just because your marriage is over. You need to take the positive view that you can and will find life after divorce.
If you can develop some good survival strategies to get you through the initial pain of separation, this will definitely help to set you on the path to finding happiness again.
Let’s look at how to get through your divorce in the best way possible. How do you approach this situation in a positive way? Why is it important to create a reliable support network? There are also some tips on how to re-launch a better version of your old self.
Don’t subscribe to the stereotype
Getting divorced can be a traumatic and confrontational experience, but it is fair to say that not all divorcees hate each other after they have officially ended their marital relationship.
There are many different reasons why people get divorced. Specialists can help people sort through unique divorce issues. From fighting couples who have fallen out of love and friendship to those whose marriages have become verbally or physically violent.
Divorcing in a loving and compassionate way is not always possible. However, it is useful to attempt to find an amicable solution where possible. It will make it easier to recover from your divorce and get your life back on track as quickly as possible.
Reach out to others
If there was a simple strategy to help you cope with the feelings of pain and loss that you can experience with divorce, we would all be doing it, but there is rarely a magic solution to such a complex relationship problem.
One of the most important aspects of going through a divorce is being able to rely on a good support network of family and friends who will help you get through this difficult period in your life.
It is often not about the quantity of friends and family you can lean on that counts, as the quality matters more. Even if you only have one really good friend who offers a strong shoulder to cry on when you need it, this can be more valuable than a whole group of friends who offer some support but don’t always know what to say to you.
You should be prepared for some old friends to go missing when you get divorced as this can, and does, happen. Focus your efforts on finding the right people to reach out to, so that you get a great support network that you can truly rely on.
A new you
We all change in subtle ways over the years and if you had been married for a long while, you are almost certainly not the same person who fell in love all those years ago.
Getting divorced means you go through quite a life-altering change from being one-half of a couple to becoming a single person again. This can cause an identity crises that is difficult to adjust to.
Work on finding a way to redefine yourself and become the person you want to be now that you are on your own and, frankly speaking, have more personal freedom to explore new options.
Psychologists suggest that exploring previously untapped hobbies and interests is a good strategy for removing any feelings of grief after divorce.
You should find that a period of self-exploration can be very liberating and exciting. Taking up new hobbies and interests is a great way to combat any feelings of isolation that you might be experiencing.
Take a positive approach to your current situation and your future prospects and there is every chance that you can find happiness again after your divorce.
Jade Gallagher went through a messy divorce 18 months ago but is now stronger, and happier than ever before. She supports other women going through divorce (as well as the occasional guy) online through social media sites and her writing. For professional support check out DivorceGuru who help people in California.