Tapping into the wisdom of our bodies is the art of paying attention to the information offered by our physical bodies and releasing stuck energies that are trapped.  When we pay close attention to our physical sensations in the face of money matters, we are able to decipher the emotional messages that our body has stored. The great news is that these physical impulses from our body are giving us an opportunity to make a shift.

If we ignore these opportunities, we miss out on the chance to release the associated negative patterns tied to our dismal situation. On the other hand, if we stay present to the sensations, we are able to access the information that is needed for release. 

Let’s recognise that money is an emotional topic. We get emotionally charged when it comes to money matters. For instance, many of us carry money shame about not being, doing or having better – essentially stories of “not enough”. We may also feel angry with ourselves for not meeting expectations or feel afraid of not having sufficient funds for retirement. As emotional reactions differ for everyone, it is important to discover what yours are like. 

What I’ve discovered is this: there are NO positive benefits to holding on to our limiting money stories or negative beliefs about ourselves for ages. In fact, the faster and earlier we clear them, the more freedom and empowerment we create for ourselves. We can choose to live today, instead of waiting till tomorrow. Indeed, building a better relationship with money starts with building a better relationship with ourselves or more specifically, our bodies. 

Tap into Your Body Wisdom 

1. Make the intention of noticing what your body is telling you. Physical sensations such as…

• butterflies in our stomach when we are just about to make a big payment
• rise in heartbeat when we are about to enter into a money discussion with our partners
• tension headache when filing for tax
• dizziness when attempting to look through financial accounts
• constriction in the heart whenever we recall about the costly financial mistake we have made in the past,
• and so on.

2. As soon as you notice that you are experiencing any physical sensations, take a pause. Stop what you are doing, so that you can give yourself the space to find out some answers.

3. Adopt an attitude of curiosity and openness as you bring attention to what is going on internally. Simply observe without judgment or the need to control or fix anything. 

4. Close your eyes if it helps you to concentrate better.

5. If you are particularly anxious, do some breathing exercises and calm yourself down sufficiently before proceeding. 

6. Bring awareness to the physical disruptive sensations. Which part of the body is experiencing these? Are you experiencing tightness in the jaw, tension in the shoulders, heaviness in the heart, and so on? Make a note of what the sensations are like and the level of intensity. 

7. Gently observe the emotions that are behind the physical symptoms. Are you feeling shame, anger and/or fear? Also notice any thoughts, self-talk, images or memories that is going on. What is the money story that you are telling? What are the limiting beliefs you are holding on to about money and abundance? There is no need to push them away, you are simply acknowledging them. 

8. Next, open your eyes and jot down or make a note of your observations.

This is a great exercise to practice whenever you need to interact with money. Physical disruptions can happen anytime even while you are paying for groceries or on the highway. Obviously do this exercise when you are out of harm’s way and where it is safe for you to do so.

Integrating Body Wisdom 

A shift usually happens when we learn to reconnect with our body, create grounding and gain wise insights about ourself.

Becoming aware is a crucial step for money healing to happen. It unravels layers and layers of emotional and mental debris. Perhaps, even lifetimes of these. You become aware of your money story patterns that have constantly kept you stuck. With the information you’ve gathered, you gain the opportunity to release negative emotional charge and to let go of limiting beliefs.

Thus, you override the old programming where the brain is wired to respond in the same ways. As I’ve discovered from working with clients, using a somatic-based approach like EFT for money healing, can be extremely helpful. With a restored energy system, you are now better able to undertake new behaviour that supports you in creating an empowered financial life going forward. 

Money Healing That Starts from The Body and that Clears Across Time, Space and Dimension

Just imagine, if you hold on to a negative money story, refusing to let go and willing yourself through (never mind, the self-sabotage). Your beliefs and unconscious patterns get coded in your energy system. It’s a set of poverty codes. The codes pass down your generational time lines until someone is brave enough to work on healing and to undo them. Only then, can freedom be established. Only then, can wholeness be restored.

So why wait when it can be now?

You do it not just for yourself, but for all those down your family line. Healing can be made through a systematic process that starts from a somatic-based approach and that involves healing across time, space and dimension. In the meantime, your courage to heal creates a ripple effect that also benefits humanity. Essentially, you are answering the call of your soul to awaken and transform at all levels of consciousness. 

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After reviewing what I had learned from my 20 years of marriage, I came up with 5 ways on how best to cultivate communication in a couple relationship. When I put the 5 ways together, I found out that it fitted nicely with a SPARK acronym and promptly extended its application to our relationship with money. 

Just imagine money as a partner for life. In order to build the best relationship with it, learning to speak the language that it loves can be helpful. Ultimately, we are able to attract a better response from our partner. Conversely, when we are not in sync, our ability to relate to each other goes down. 

The Chicken And Duck Problem in Communication 

Ever heard of the Chinese idiom about getting a chicken and duck to talk to each other?

The Chinese idiom literally means two persons having difficulty communicating with each other, as if they are speaking different languages. 

I often felt that way when I was communicating with my husband. Arguments would start when we couldn’t seem to get through to each other. At first, my response strategy was to avoid whenever the communication got too difficult. However, I soon realised that it was necessary to talk things over so that misunderstandings can be cleared up. 

Keeping communication lines open between my husband and I gave us the chance to work through our conflicts. Where I once preferred to flee from difficult conversations, I have since learned to stay the course. These days, I’m learning to practice more empathetic listening, patience and respond more wisely. I’m also working on articulating my needs and to be more present to his. Even with the tiny improvements made, I can already see how things have improved between us. 

What Does S.P.A.R.K. mean

Admittedly, S.P.A.R.K while simple to understand, takes some effort to apply.

Indeed, the steps may seem obvious when we are trying to relate to a person but we can certainly apply the same steps for building a better relationship with money.

The process involves thinking of money as a “lover” or friend whom we are interested to deepen our connection with. When we are better attuned, our relationship with money naturally improves. Feeing nurtured and supported, we find ourselves becoming more productive, energised and resilient. All these help us to attract more clients, business and work opportunities. We are also better able to show up for our families, work and/or business.

S.P.A.R.K. essentially comprises of 
S=Sort Things Out
P=Pause & Be Present
A=Affirm Positively
R=Raise Your Game
K=Keep Thanking.

Applying S.P.A.R.K. in How You Can Communicate with Money

Here’s a brief explanation 

S=Sort Things Out. Work on conflict resolution. Change your thoughts and feelings towards money.

P=Pause & Be Present. Be present. Apply ABC which stands for Always Be Connecting. Set healthy money dates.

A=Affirm Positively. Affirm positive beliefs about money, your confidence and relationship with it.

R=Raise Your Game. Money loves growth. Invest in money workshops. Speak finances and money lingo. Work on growing money, increasing sources of income and your money mindset.

K=Keep Thanking. Avoid taking things for granted. Adopt gratitude for the role of money in your life.

The Art of Money Communication

I wouldn’t have made it to celebrating 20 years of married life to the same guy if I hadn’t worked hard in improving my communication with him. We’ve learned the importance of connection, support and growth in our relationship. As we’ve discovered, it is an ongoing process and it can be an art in communicating with money sometimes. 

Similarly, to have a great relationship with money requires constant tending to. However, most people neglect their money relationship. It could be due to fear or some limiting beliefs in the way. It is best that we avoid tending to this as last in our priority, if we are interested to thrive financially in the world. Money is after all, something that we have to handle till the day we die. Hence, learning to better communicate with it is vital! 

Not forgetting, money loves compounding! Incremental improvements can go a long way. Thus, the earlier we make healthy money dates and learn to better speak the language of money, the more investment pay-offs we reap!

For more on S.P.A.R.K., check out the Relationship with Money course here. There are more examples and worksheets that you can download to work on improving the art of money communication. 

Love and Abundance Always, 
Evelyn Lim
Money Relationship Mentor 
Financial Therapist 

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