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What is the Fight-Flight-Freeze-Fawn Stress Response


Most of us have heard about the fight, flight and flee response to stress. But what about the fawn response? Well, let’s put them altogether so that we can understand the different responses in the face of stress. 

Fight, flight or freeze is a set of stress response arising in natural body reactions to perceived threats. It’s a survival response that has been programmed since the days of our ancestors when there was real danger posed by dangerous animals. These days, the threats that we face are largely psychological. However, the body continues to respond in the same manner as if there is a tiger standing right in front of us.

In a nutshell, when faced with stress, your sympathetic nervous system is being activated. Hormones are released in your body after being stimulated by your adrenal glands; from a signal that was first transmitted to the hypothalamus by your amygdala, the emotional part of your brain. As a result, you are prompted to stay and fight, run and flee danger or stay frozen and stuck.

Acute stress response can result in the following….

  • Breathlessness
  • Heart rate increase
  • Blood pressure rise
  • Nervous tension 
  • Pale or flushed skin
  • Dilated pupils
  • Stomach upset 

There are detrimental effects if your stress response remains activated over long periods of time as in chronic stress. 

What is the Fawn Response? 

The fawn stress response is used after an unsuccessful fight, flight, or freeze attempt.

Fawn is your body’s stress response to try to please someone to avoid conflict. It is often rooted in childhood issues where you believe that you need to be agreeable as a survival strategy. Subconsciously, you are hoping to fulfil your basic need for love and belonging due to constant emotional neglect and rejection. Unfortunately, fawn creates codependency and a loss in identity.

If stress impacts your quality of life, affects you in daily functioning or if you have a nervous system that is overreacting, do look for appropriate solutions.  

Common Signs of Fight, Flight, Freeze and Fawn Stress Response 

How to Alleviate the Stress Response

While our stress response is meant to protect us from extreme harm, chronic illnesses can develop with a stress response that is always activated.

One great way to alleviate the stress response is to apply EFT tapping for calming your nervous system. EFT stands for Emotional Freedom Techniques. It involves tapping on specific meridian points on your face and body using your fingertips. Tapping sends a calming signal to the emotional part of your brain, thereby releasing stress and restoring your body’s energy system. 

If you’ve been using the fawn response, it is also possible to address core issues that stem from childhood. EFT tapping can be applied for healing your inner child, to change your programming and break the patterns of codependency.  Review some of the testimonials here. 

Apply for a discovery call if you’d like to find out more about stress reduction at deep-rooted levels and working together. 

Love and abundance always, 
Evelyn Lim
Accredited Advanced EFT Practitioner 
Self-Love Healing Specialist 

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How to Feel Better About Growing Older: Your Story Isn’t Over, It’s Just Getting Good!


Live. Love. Laugh… Then Laugh a Little More! First of all, allow me to say that if you’re feeling unhappy, sad, or in any way negative about growing older or looking older, there’s nothing wrong with that! We feel how we feel and we are entitled to these feelings. So when I try to make…

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How to Deep Dive into the Root Cause of Anger


You may get all fiery, red and hot when feeling angry.

It may also be that you lash out at others when you start to feel mad.

However, anger may not just be about getting triggered and exploding in an outward behaviour.

While you may feel justified about feeling angry, excessive anger can create an impact on your health and also hurt your relationships. 

Hence, to alleviate intense emotional levels such as anger, an inner deep dive is warranted. 

In fact, if you choose to investigate, you may just find out that there are deeper “onion” layers (emotionally and cognitively).

Refer to the image below for some examples on what you may discover.

Root Cause of Anger

At the root, you may find out that there are certain negative core beliefs that make up your thought patterns.

Examples of core beliefs 
– “I am not lovable”
– “I’m not important”
– I’m unworthy”
– “I’m not good enough”
– etc. 

These core beliefs are likely to influence you in how you feel and how you respond in terms of reactive behaviour. They form the programming that drive your impulses. The beliefs are your default automatic negative thought patterns. They may explain why you find yourself in the same negative situation repeatedly. 

Deep Dive into the Root Cause of Anger 

My question is: To get to what is really behind anger, how far or deep are you willing to go?

If you want to make a change in how you react or respond to triggers, consider diving in to find out the root cause of anger. 

I work with clients to unearth deeper layers and to heal somatically, so that they can alleviate their automatic angry reactions. We find out what core beliefs are driving their patterns of behaviour and we work on integrating a new set of loving and supportive beliefs for a better way forward. A shift gives way to an embodied sense of calm and ease.

If you’d like to find out more about working together, click over here for a discovery call

To your well-being,
Evelyn Lim
Therapeutic Coach 
Self-Love Healing Specialist 


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4 Money Healing Stories: Letting Go of the Past


I have had the privilege of working with women who have realised that much of their financial stress and sense of lack stemmed from childhood. For a long time, they carried an emotional money wound. While they tried to put their pain aside, they found out that their wounds continued to bleed; such that there was an adverse impact on their financial well-being.

These women had tried to “will” their stress away but met with limited success; that is, until we started to work together. Well, I would like to share the stories of how each of them worked on healing their money patterns. To protect their privacy, I have used pen names for them. 

Money Healing Story #1: Breaking Free of Glass Income Ceiling

No matter how much effort she put in, Annie couldn’t seem to break through her glass income ceiling for her business. She’s constantly having money worries and that she’d never have enough. While we were working together, Annie experienced an “aha” moment. She suddenly realised how her unconscious limit in earnings came about.

Her dad had struggled to make a living when she was young. Unfortunately, Annie internalised some of the messages he had shared with her about his money troubles. During our session, she “saw” the amount that was written on the cheques he had been banking in from his job. To her surprise, it was the same amount that she has been earning for a long time from her business.

Annie worked on letting go of her glass ceiling. She gave herself the permission to make more than her dad. Annie no longer limits herself on what she can earn. As a result of her inner work, she has been generating income breakthroughs ever since. Annie found herself attracting bigger and bigger deals for her business. 

Money Healing Story #2: From Undeserving to Feeling Worthy

Belinda’s mum would constantly criticise her when she was young. Even though Belinda was born into a well-to-do family, her mum would make it seem that she did not deserve any of it. Her mum forbade her from playing from her friends and piled her with tasks and helping out in the family business. As a result, she spent all her time studying and working.

Today, as an adult, Belinda has been struggling with believing that she is deserving of love and money and also, worthy of receiving. None of her money-making ideas has taken off. She often felt guilty if she did not help out in her family business and would prioritise the needs of others before hers. 

Belinda worked on healing some of her money wounds, and changing her beliefs to affirming that she is deserving. Her confidence improved tremendously, as a result. She has also given herself the permission to feel safe about taking a break and changing how she views work. Belinda has also learnt to prioritise self-love and care. 

Money Healing Story #3: Mending Her Money Wounds 

Chelsea has a mum who used to demand money from her ever since she started work at 14 years old. At one stage, she had to juggle 3 part-time jobs, so that she can help supplement her family’s income. Even then, her mum would constantly undermining her confidence. Unable to concentrate, her school grades suffered badly.

As soon as Chelsea reached adulthood, she moved out from home to get away from the toxic environment. However, due to her poor grades, she had to start work from the bottom. Life was hard but she managed to persevere.

Still, Chelsea was aware that she could do with much less struggle. It’s how she ended up with doing inner work to heal her deep money wounds. She has come a long way in gaining a greater sense of financial well-being.

Money Healing Story #4: Overcoming the Fear and Anxiety of Not Having Enough 

Daisy had found her insecurities with money to be debilitating. When she was young, her parents had to rely on government handouts. Her parents just could not take up financial responsibility and were not able to manage their expenses properly. They had constant fights about money and Daisy lived in persistent fear of not having enough to survive throughout her childhood.

Even though the circumstances today had changed tremendously for Daisy, she continued to live in the constant worry that she will not have enough. She had been fearful that her money would run out and would pick fights with her husband. 

Through our sessions, Daisy worked on calming her nervous system so that she can find safety and calm. Also, she worked on tapping into her worthiness. She is now on the way to levelling up her business from “just getting by” and holding space for more clients.

Money Healing: Stop the Financial Bleeding

Hope the stories inspire you to make a shift in your financial well-being.

Need some healing work to be done? 

If your issues stem from the past, look into healing your money wounds.  In fact, the quicker you stop the emotional bleeding, the better it is. You are investing in your financial well-being that compounds from now on. 

To find out more about working together, apply for a discovery call with me. 

Love and Abundance Always, 
Evelyn Lim
Abundance Coach

Money Relationship Mentor
Accredited EFT Practitioner 

Other Money Healing Stories

1. How Kay Cleared Her Money Blocks

2. How Amy Overcame Her Money Struggles

3. The Limiting Money Blocks that Nellie Cleared for Client Attraction

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Five Ways That You May Be Affecting Your Brain Health Without Realizing It


Get enough sleep for mental and physical health! Most people like to think that they are conscientious when it comes to their health. They try to eat right, to sleep right, and to exercise when they can. However, it is a fact of life that when we are stressed and burned out, it can be…

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