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Home Sweet Haven: Making Your Home Your Personal Escape from the World

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Source: 54 Wall Mural Ideas to Personalize Your Home Beautiful Ways to Make Home Sweet Home EVEN Sweeter I love it when things just kind of come together, don’t’ you? Kismet always makes me smile – there’s just something harmonious about feeling like you’re where you’re meant to be… figuratively or physically! I have been…

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One Step at a Time

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“We will never make a journey of a thousand miles by fretting about how long it will take or how hard it will be. We make the journey by taking each day step by step and then repeating it again and again until we reach our destination.” -Joseph B. Wirthlin

Life passes one day at a time. The sun rises by the hour. An hour passes by the minute. Minutes fly by in seconds. Walls are built by the brick and distances are travelled by the mile and miles by the step.

Life, in fact, is all about taking next steps.

Progress and improvement, goals, repentance and our very discipleship are about the nature and direction of those steps. We talk about the covenant path. Christ reminds us that He is the Way. He invites us to come, follow Him. We enter in at the gate and travel the straight and narrow on our metaphorical Road to Damascus.

All such phrases imply steps, incremental progress, a gradual process of growth and improvement. Where you or I find ourselves along the covenant path matters much less than whether we are striving to take the next step from wherever we happen to be at the moment.

The Widow’s Mite

In the lesson of the widow’s mite, Jesus taught that the poor widow offering her two mites (worth only a few cents) put more into the treasury than the much larger donations from the rich who added only from their surplus wealth.

In other words, the absolute amount seems to matter less than the degree. What the poor widow gave was more than the rich by comparison to what each had to give.

Similarly, your stride along the covenant path may be the equivalent to the widow’s mite in length, but may likewise be a treasury of gold to the Lord who looks on the heart and knows the reality of our lives, the limits of our abilities and the histories and circumstances no one else but He and you know about.

So if you find yourself on a spiritual plateau, flat-lined, empty and stuck, my call to you today is not to revolutionize your life. It’s not to start all over again or leap forward in a giant Saul-like change, doing everything that can be done. It’s to simply choose a single area of your life that needs improvement (every one of us has many such areas), and just take one step in that direction.

What Doesn’t Really Matter…

It doesn’t matter how many different steps could be taken. It doesn’t matter how far behind you are from where you think you should have already been or where you perceive others are. All that really matters is that you identify the needed step and that you take it, no matter how small that step needs to be to get yourself moving. Baby steps are still steps forward, after all!

Ultimately, it doesn’t even matter how many times you’ve tripped and fallen, wandered off course, rejected the path itself, pretended it wasn’t there, disbelieved in its reality or intentionally ran straight into the mists of darkness in a rebellious spit in the eye.

None of that matters in the end. Yesterday is gone. Tomorrow hasn’t come. Today awaits. The only thing that matters is that you are here today, looking down the road, figuring out where to place your next step, wanting to follow Christ. 

Our incremental improvement isn’t about becoming acceptable to the Lord (He already accepts you) or qualifying for blessings (you can’t anyway) or averting celestial punishment. It’s about loving Christ and Heavenly Father and wanting to show that love by taking steps toward them. 

Just Take the Step

So from wherever you are today, take a step. Just one. Even if just nudging your little toe forward along the covenant path is all you can muster for now in your discipleship. Even if no one else can see your improvement or growth, your repentance, the lessons learned or your spiritual stretch, the very act of leaning in the right direction is a success nonetheless.

Perhaps it is finally confessing a secret sin, or apologizing for an offense, enrolling in an anger management course, forgiving a grudge you’ve held onto, praying if you normally don’t, or reading scripture if you haven’t for a while. Whatever your next step is, now is the time to take it.

So don’t worry where you’ve been, how long you’ve been there, how far off-road you’ve gone or how hard it is to be consistently moving in the right direction all the time. Just take the step.

Then, when you trip, stumble and fall, move back three spaces or face plant on the sidewalk of your life, just know that it’s all fairly irrelevant to the greater concern knowing that if you fall back three spaces this week, but get up and step forward 4, that’s still progress worthy of celebration.

The Prominent Sound in Heaven

Remember the parable of the prodigal son. What did his father do when his wayward son came back after riotously losing all his inheritance in his prodigal life of sin? He threw his arms around his neck and then threw him a party. He celebrated his return, his new direction and the steps he took to come back.

Note what is glaringly not part of that parable. The father did not question him about motives or sincerity, about how much he squandered or the degrees of sin he committed or levels of true repentance he displayed over what duration of time. He just loved and celebrated his son.

That, I’m convinced, is what our Heavenly Father does too. I believe the prominent sounds in Heaven are not tearful groans for the sins of the world; they are shouts of joy for every time someone takes a better step today than yesterday.

No Straight Lines

The truth is that life is not a straight line from birth through all the covenantal markers along the straight and narrow path to exaltation and eternal life for anyone.

No, life looks a lot more like a stock market line graph with zigs and zags, peaks and toughs, surges and crashes, ups and downs. But if you look at any 10-30 year period of time, the general direction, the trend-line, the trajectory is up, even though interrupted by periods of recession and depression.

The stock market is not the only place of volatility. Life and our progress through it has its fair share as well. That’s why Heavenly Father sent us His Son to lend His stability to our volatility, His immortality to our mortality and His perfection to our imperfection.

Next Time you Fall

So look down the road of your life and ask yourself these questions: Am I on the right path?  Am I moving forward? Am I learning? Am I growing? What, then, is my next best step? How can I best take that step?

Once the answers to those questions have been identified, shift your weight forward to your lead leg and lean into your personal growth, not as an expression of shame driven by self-contempt, but as an expression of gratitude and love for God, Christ, their gospel and yourself.

And just remember that your Heavenly Father is there to guide you and your Savior Jesus Christ is there to pick you back up the next time you misstep and stumble along the way. 

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Did You Just Embarrass Yourself? 9 Ways To Get Over Embarrassment

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We all embarrass ourselves sometimes. That said, knowing you’re not alone doesn’t always make it easier to overcome embarrassment, especially when you’re trying to leave a good impression on someone.   Fortunately for you, you’re about to learn nine simple and effective ways to forget an embarrassing moment — and even make some good come out …

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One Step at a Time

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“We will never make a journey of a thousand miles by fretting about how long it will take or how hard it will be. We make the journey by taking each day step by step and then repeating it again and again until we reach our destination.” -Joseph B. Wirthlin

Life passes one day at a time. The sun rises by the hour. An hour passes by the minute. Minutes fly by in seconds. Walls are built by the brick and distances are travelled by the mile and miles by the step.

Life, in fact, is all about taking next steps.

Progress and improvement, goals, repentance and our very discipleship are about the nature and direction of those steps. We talk about the covenant path. Christ reminds us that He is the Way. He invites us to come, follow Him. We enter in at the gate and travel the straight and narrow on our metaphorical Road to Damascus.

All such phrases imply steps, incremental progress, a gradual process of growth and improvement. Where you or I find ourselves along the covenant path matters much less than whether we are striving to take the next step from wherever we happen to be at the moment.

The Widow’s Mite

In the lesson of the widow’s mite, Jesus taught that the poor widow offering her two mites (worth only a few cents) put more into the treasury than the much larger donations from the rich who added only from their surplus wealth.

In other words, the absolute amount seems to matter less than the degree. What the poor widow gave was more than the rich by comparison to what each had to give.

Similarly, your stride along the covenant path may be the equivalent to the widow’s mite in length, but may likewise be a treasury of gold to the Lord who looks on the heart and knows the reality of our lives, the limits of our abilities and the histories and circumstances no one else but He and you know about.

So if you find yourself on a spiritual plateau, flat-lined, empty and stuck, my call to you today is not to revolutionize your life. It’s not to start all over again or leap forward in a giant Saul-like change, doing everything that can be done. It’s to simply choose a single area of your life that needs improvement (every one of us has many such areas), and just take one step in that direction.

What Doesn’t Really Matter…

It doesn’t matter how many different steps could be taken. It doesn’t matter how far behind you are from where you think you should have already been or where you perceive others are. All that really matters is that you identify the needed step and that you take it, no matter how small that step needs to be to get yourself moving. Baby steps are still steps forward, after all!

Ultimately, it doesn’t even matter how many times you’ve tripped and fallen, wandered off course, rejected the path itself, pretended it wasn’t there, disbelieved in its reality or intentionally ran straight into the mists of darkness in a rebellious spit in the eye.

None of that matters in the end. Yesterday is gone. Tomorrow hasn’t come. Today awaits. The only thing that matters is that you are here today, looking down the road, figuring out where to place your next step, wanting to follow Christ. 

Our incremental improvement isn’t about becoming acceptable to the Lord (He already accepts you) or qualifying for blessings (you can’t anyway) or averting celestial punishment. It’s about loving Christ and Heavenly Father and wanting to show that love by taking steps toward them. 

Just Take the Step

So from wherever you are today, take a step. Just one. Even if just nudging your little toe forward along the covenant path is all you can muster for now in your discipleship. Even if no one else can see your improvement or growth, your repentance, the lessons learned or your spiritual stretch, the very act of leaning in the right direction is a success nonetheless.

Perhaps it is finally confessing a secret sin, or apologizing for an offense, enrolling in an anger management course, forgiving a grudge you’ve held onto, praying if you normally don’t, or reading scripture if you haven’t for a while. Whatever your next step is, now is the time to take it.

So don’t worry where you’ve been, how long you’ve been there, how far off-road you’ve gone or how hard it is to be consistently moving in the right direction all the time. Just take the step.

Then, when you trip, stumble and fall, move back three spaces or face plant on the sidewalk of your life, just know that it’s all fairly irrelevant to the greater concern knowing that if you fall back three spaces this week, but get up and step forward 4, that’s still progress worthy of celebration.

The Prominent Sound in Heaven

Remember the parable of the prodigal son. What did his father do when his wayward son came back after riotously losing all his inheritance in his prodigal life of sin? He threw his arms around his neck and then threw him a party. He celebrated his return, his new direction and the steps he took to come back.

Note what is glaringly not part of that parable. The father did not question him about motives or sincerity, about how much he squandered or the degrees of sin he committed or levels of true repentance he displayed over what duration of time. He just loved and celebrated his son.

That, I’m convinced, is what our Heavenly Father does too. I believe the prominent sounds in Heaven are not tearful groans for the sins of the world; they are shouts of joy for every time someone takes a better step today than yesterday.

No Straight Lines

The truth is that life is not a straight line from birth through all the covenantal markers along the straight and narrow path to exaltation and eternal life for anyone.

No, life looks a lot more like a stock market line graph with zigs and zags, peaks and toughs, surges and crashes, ups and downs. But if you look at any 10-30 year period of time, the general direction, the trend-line, the trajectory is up, even though interrupted by periods of recession and depression.

The stock market is not the only place of volatility. Life and our progress through it has its fair share as well. That’s why Heavenly Father sent us His Son to lend His stability to our volatility, His immortality to our mortality and His perfection to our imperfection.

Next Time you Fall

So look down the road of your life and ask yourself these questions: Am I on the right path?  Am I moving forward? Am I learning? Am I growing? What, then, is my next best step? How can I best take that step?

Once the answers to those questions have been identified, shift your weight forward to your lead leg and lean into your personal growth, not as an expression of shame driven by self-contempt, but as an expression of gratitude and love for God, Christ, their gospel and yourself.

And just remember that your Heavenly Father is there to guide you and your Savior Jesus Christ is there to pick you back up the next time you misstep and stumble along the way. 

Photo from Pixaby

Magical Mornings – How to Get More Done Before Breakfast

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There is something special about waking up early each day.

It is a secret sauce for getting a heck of a lot more done in life.

Almost 3 weeks ago I decided to change my daily schedule by waking up at 4am each day.

4am you say?!

You bet!

Let me tell you how to do it shortly.

But first, let me quickly tell you why I have chosen to do this.

Why wake up so early?

There are literally zero distractions. Your willpower is at its highest. You can focus 100 percent on whatever your biggest goal in life is.

Think about this:

If you were to wake up at 4am each day and get in 3 hours of deep, focused, work before most people wake up at around 7am, that totals 21 hours of work a week, 82 hours of work a month, and over 1,000 hours of work for the year.

1,000 hours of focused, deep work a year is equal to 125x 8hour working days… but these are not your typical 8hr working days with interruptions, meetings, and breaks. These are 8 hours of FOCUSED, DEEP WORK on your most important goals.

Taking it a step further, 125x 8 hr working days is equal to working full-time, in a deep and focused state on your most important goals for 25 weeks of the year! That is just shy of 6 months.

It is crazy how these numbers stack up.

And all it takes it simply waking up earlier and getting focused on what matters most and being consistent with it.

Does it really work?

Most definitely!

In the last three weeks I have:

  • Completely updated my Change Your Life program.
  • Ran a Flash Sale for you guys.
  • Overhauled my website – new theme, new homepage, mostly a lot of backend and design elements that will make things simpler moving forward (check it out if interested and tell me what you think).
  • Created a side hustle which I have been hustling on for the last couple of weeks (unfortunately it is not going as well as I had planned… I rapidly launched this to test the idea and so far, it is a slow start).
  • Created two other multi-page websites (fully designed and complete) as part of the new side hustle.
  • Got more exercise in… being able to go for a walk or a bicycle ride at 5am while the sun is rising is incredibly special… there is something about it that is magical.
  • Read 3 books… although this one is because I have changed my night-time routine (to help me start effectively with my morning).

Just writing the above makes me feel in awe of this process. It is simply amazing the output that can be created when this time stacks up each day.

But it is not as simple as it sounds… mostly because I have three young children between the ages of 1 and 5. So, as any parent would understand, trying to stick to a schedule is incredibly hard!

The mornings are the easy part because everyone is sleeping. The hardest part is getting to sleep on time.

I need at LEAST 8 hours of sleep each night to perform at my best. So, to wake up at 4am means getting to bed no later than 8pm. But even then, it is impossible to get a full 8 hours of sleep in because my kids are always waking up each night. I have not had a full-night’s sleep for 5 years now, except for the odd occasion when I am away for business travel. Any parents with young children reading this know exactly what I am talking about!

Here is the reality.

I have only actually woken up at 4am twice during this time (well, one time I got up at 3:57am which was ever better).

To get an 8 hour sleep I really need “bed time” of 8.5 hours, and preferably 9 hours.

Getting to bed at 8pm is tricky. My kids are often still mucking around until 8pm, or sometimes even 8:30pm!

And then there is that time I used to spend with my wife – after the kids are sleep and before our own sleep. This was our quality time together. Going to bed at 8pm took this way.

As a result, I have been tweaking my strategy over the past few weeks and my typical day now looks like:

  • Bed-time between 8:30pm and 9pm
  • Awake at 5:30am.

So, my goal of 4am has only been achieved twice. But that’s ok, because every other day over the past 3 weeks I have been up by 6am at the very latest.

This has given me at least one hour every day, and probably about 1 hour and 45minutes on average over the past 3 weeks to really focus deeply on these goals.

Even just 1 hour of deep, focused, work a day, will tally up to 45 rock solid 8 hr days with no breaks, which tallies 2 and a half months of full-time work a year. And again, this is time purely on deep, focused, work. Incredible!

How do you do it?

I found it quite simple.

You simply set a strict rule for yourself in terms of your bedtime and wake up time.

Make sure you push all your bed-time rituals forward to meet your deadline. ie, stop drinking caffeine earlier in the day, stop all your screen time earlier than usual, eat earlier if need be, and so forth.

The main thing is to really internalise the benefits of doing this. The primary benefit being that you will get undistracted, highly focused work done on your most important goals in life. Whether that is working on a big project at work, perhaps it is doing your side hustle, or perhaps it is writing your book, or perhaps it is getting your daily exercise in.

Whatever it is, you need to internalise the benefit of doing this and achieving it.

The other thing is to plan the night before what you will do in the morning.

You do not want to wake up, hit your desk, and then use your willpower and waste time trying to figure out what you are going to do.

Instead, have it planned… know exactly what you are going to do.

Perhaps its that you will write 1,000 words of your book, or that you are going to go for a bicycle ride through the park, or that you are going to research a certain topic.

Having it planned means that within five minutes of waking up, you are focused and doing productive work.

My first 3 weeks have been amazing.

The challenge for me now is to keep this up. I have no intention of stopping this.

I challenge you to experience the magic of the mornings.

This is the time you can really change your life, by working at it every single day.

When you win your mornings, you win the day.

Are you with me?

Brendan

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What is Money Scarcity REALLY Teaching You

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If you are experiencing the struggle over financial lack, it can be challenging to see the lessons money scarcity offers. You are in emotional struggle when you feel worry, frustration and stressed out. Many of us do find it hard to have clarity when we experience emotional overwhelm. Through this article, I hope to shed some insights that have personally helped me create a shift in my relationship with money

For a start, it may seem impossible to will away the perception of scarcity. After all, limits are very much a natural part of our physical life. Just think about it, there is 24 hours in a day, 60 minutes in an hour and 60 seconds in one minute. You have got to finish the work that needs to be done within a certain time frame.

Then, there is also ageing and the cycle of life and death. The physical world has some kind of built-in mechanism where conditions and limits are already preset.

It was also where my confusion came in as well.

For a long time, I had trouble reconciling the ideas of abundance and scarcity. There is the experience of scarcity at physical life because we cannot escape time-space constraints and yet, metaphysical teachers say that the Universe is one of abundance and that we are infinite. So it feels as if both these ideas are on polar ends.

My mind just could not fully grasp or make sense of having scarcity and abundance co-exist together. Hence, no matter how hard I tried to “will” myself to believe that the Universe is abundant, I had the niggling doubt that it could be absolutely true because my experience of the physical world had been otherwise. I was experiencing contrast. 

Is the same conflict bothering you too? Well, when there is non-congruency, it is hard to embody the energy of abundance. Thus, with experiencing scarcity in the physical world, you hit a block each time the mind goes up against a limit. Invariably, you would tell yourself, “there is not enough”. Going up against a limit can set off panic buttons or alarm bells.

To beat money scarcity, you may have even chase after ways to plug the hole. You find yourself working a lot harder and longer, which if you are to reflect, rarely fixes the problem of scarcity or limit that exists in the mind.

Money Scarcity Life Lessons

What Money Scarcity is NOT Teaching You

Money is being printed based on monetary policies by the central bank or government, so technically there is lots of cash in the financial system. Hence a situation of financial lack is only true according to your own physical experience of money.

A situation of money scarcity is not teaching you to dwell in misery. It is certainly not asking you to keep awake at night. Or to blame your spouse, the government or tax authorities either.

Let’s acknowledge that there can be limits in the physical world where certain resources are limited and hence, you experience scarcity. On the other hand, it helps to remember that scarcity and limits can also be a construct of the ego. When you identify too much with limiting thoughts, you can hold yourself back from achieving what you do want. 

spiritual being in human experience

If you can recall, your soul did choose to experience scarcity in an incarnation, so that it can embody the truth of its divine nature. Contrast allows for experiential knowing. Your soul can only know abundance through having a contrasting situation in a physical life. It’s like you will not know what cold is without the contrasting experience of heat. Or it’s hard to figure out what love is without going through fear in an experience.

An experience of financial lack is something that you can choose to reverse. As much as we can undertake measures or strategies to “make more money”, it also involves an inside-out approach where you first reawaken to the truth. By reminding yourself the truth of your being and reconnecting with  sense of worthiness , you can then make the inner shift that often translates to manifesting the truth on the outside: that abundance (including money) is actually available to you!

What Money Scarcity is Teaching You Instead

Remember this: limits are not dead ends.

What scarcity is truly teaching you is about appreciating what is important:

* Are you appreciating life?

* Are you making the best use of a limited life span?

* Are you making the best use of limited resources?

* Are you embracing what appears to be finite: time, money and the life energy of your family and friends?

In short, scarcity is teaching you to redirect your focus.

When you start to put your attention on the things that matter, illusion dissolves. There is no need to grasp, cling or hanker for something out there because there is already the richness of life! Indeed, this is where you practice gratitude! 

Material things do not last. Money doesn’t. You become awakened to the truth that you are a divine soul. In that moment of deep realisation, your soul recognises abundance as a quintessential quality of its eternal being. It is when you embody the inner experience of the awakening that true abundance manifests in the physical world.

Would like to make a Relation-SHIFT in the way you think and feel about money and yourself? Check out my course on Transforming Your Relationship with Money here…

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Share your thoughts with what scarcity or money scarcity is really teaching you in the comments below 🙂

Love and abundance always,
Evelyn Lim 
Abundance Coach
Life Coach for Women

P.S. Have got money blocks that you’d like to address? 

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Magical Mornings – How to Get More Done Before Breakfast

self-help

There is something special about waking up early each day.

It is a secret sauce for getting a heck of a lot more done in life.

Almost 3 weeks ago I decided to change my daily schedule by waking up at 4am each day.

4am you say?!

You bet!

Let me tell you how to do it shortly.

But first, let me quickly tell you why I have chosen to do this.

Why wake up so early?

There are literally zero distractions. Your willpower is at its highest. You can focus 100 percent on whatever your biggest goal in life is.

Think about this:

If you were to wake up at 4am each day and get in 3 hours of deep, focused, work before most people wake up at around 7am, that totals 21 hours of work a week, 82 hours of work a month, and over 1,000 hours of work for the year.

1,000 hours of focused, deep work a year is equal to 125x 8hour working days… but these are not your typical 8hr working days with interruptions, meetings, and breaks. These are 8 hours of FOCUSED, DEEP WORK on your most important goals.

Taking it a step further, 125x 8 hr working days is equal to working full-time, in a deep and focused state on your most important goals for 25 weeks of the year! That is just shy of 6 months.

It is crazy how these numbers stack up.

And all it takes it simply waking up earlier and getting focused on what matters most and being consistent with it.

Does it really work?

Most definitely!

In the last three weeks I have:

  • Completely updated my Change Your Life program.
  • Ran a Flash Sale for you guys.
  • Overhauled my website – new theme, new homepage, mostly a lot of backend and design elements that will make things simpler moving forward (check it out if interested and tell me what you think).
  • Created a side hustle which I have been hustling on for the last couple of weeks (unfortunately it is not going as well as I had planned… I rapidly launched this to test the idea and so far, it is a slow start).
  • Created two other multi-page websites (fully designed and complete) as part of the new side hustle.
  • Got more exercise in… being able to go for a walk or a bicycle ride at 5am while the sun is rising is incredibly special… there is something about it that is magical.
  • Read 3 books… although this one is because I have changed my night-time routine (to help me start effectively with my morning).

Just writing the above makes me feel in awe of this process. It is simply amazing the output that can be created when this time stacks up each day.

But it is not as simple as it sounds… mostly because I have three young children between the ages of 1 and 5. So, as any parent would understand, trying to stick to a schedule is incredibly hard!

The mornings are the easy part because everyone is sleeping. The hardest part is getting to sleep on time.

I need at LEAST 8 hours of sleep each night to perform at my best. So, to wake up at 4am means getting to bed no later than 8pm. But even then, it is impossible to get a full 8 hours of sleep in because my kids are always waking up each night. I have not had a full-night’s sleep for 5 years now, except for the odd occasion when I am away for business travel. Any parents with young children reading this know exactly what I am talking about!

Here is the reality.

I have only actually woken up at 4am twice during this time (well, one time I got up at 3:57am which was ever better).

To get an 8 hour sleep I really need “bed time” of 8.5 hours, and preferably 9 hours.

Getting to bed at 8pm is tricky. My kids are often still mucking around until 8pm, or sometimes even 8:30pm!

And then there is that time I used to spend with my wife – after the kids are sleep and before our own sleep. This was our quality time together. Going to bed at 8pm took this way.

As a result, I have been tweaking my strategy over the past few weeks and my typical day now looks like:

  • Bed-time between 8:30pm and 9pm
  • Awake at 5:30am.

So, my goal of 4am has only been achieved twice. But that’s ok, because every other day over the past 3 weeks I have been up by 6am at the very latest.

This has given me at least one hour every day, and probably about 1 hour and 45minutes on average over the past 3 weeks to really focus deeply on these goals.

Even just 1 hour of deep, focused, work a day, will tally up to 45 rock solid 8 hr days with no breaks, which tallies 2 and a half months of full-time work a year. And again, this is time purely on deep, focused, work. Incredible!

How do you do it?

I found it quite simple.

You simply set a strict rule for yourself in terms of your bedtime and wake up time.

Make sure you push all your bed-time rituals forward to meet your deadline. ie, stop drinking caffeine earlier in the day, stop all your screen time earlier than usual, eat earlier if need be, and so forth.

The main thing is to really internalise the benefits of doing this. The primary benefit being that you will get undistracted, highly focused work done on your most important goals in life. Whether that is working on a big project at work, perhaps it is doing your side hustle, or perhaps it is writing your book, or perhaps it is getting your daily exercise in.

Whatever it is, you need to internalise the benefit of doing this and achieving it.

The other thing is to plan the night before what you will do in the morning.

You do not want to wake up, hit your desk, and then use your willpower and waste time trying to figure out what you are going to do.

Instead, have it planned… know exactly what you are going to do.

Perhaps its that you will write 1,000 words of your book, or that you are going to go for a bicycle ride through the park, or that you are going to research a certain topic.

Having it planned means that within five minutes of waking up, you are focused and doing productive work.

My first 3 weeks have been amazing.

The challenge for me now is to keep this up. I have no intention of stopping this.

I challenge you to experience the magic of the mornings.

This is the time you can really change your life, by working at it every single day.

When you win your mornings, you win the day.

Are you with me?

Brendan

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12 Tips to Effectively Communicate With Your Doctor

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12 Tips to Effectively Communicate With Your Doctor

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If there’s one thing you should handle with the utmost care, it’s how to effectively communicate with your doctor. – so you can successfully protect your health. After all, doctors will be giving you medication accompanied by important instructions and […]

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What is Money Scarcity REALLY Teaching You

self-help

If you are experiencing the struggle over financial lack, it can be challenging to see the lessons money scarcity offers. You are in emotional struggle when you feel worry, frustration and stressed out. Many of us do find it hard to have clarity when we experience emotional overwhelm. Through this article, I hope to shed some insights that have personally helped me create a shift in my relationship with money

For a start, it may seem impossible to will away the perception of scarcity. After all, limits are very much a natural part of our physical life. Just think about it, there is 24 hours in a day, 60 minutes in an hour and 60 seconds in one minute. You have got to finish the work that needs to be done within a certain time frame.

Then, there is also ageing and the cycle of life and death. The physical world has some kind of built-in mechanism where conditions and limits are already preset.

It was also where my confusion came in as well.

For a long time, I had trouble reconciling the ideas of abundance and scarcity. There is the experience of scarcity at physical life because we cannot escape time-space constraints and yet, metaphysical teachers say that the Universe is one of abundance and that we are infinite. So it feels as if both these ideas are on polar ends.

My mind just could not fully grasp or make sense of having scarcity and abundance co-exist together. Hence, no matter how hard I tried to “will” myself to believe that the Universe is abundant, I had the niggling doubt that it could be absolutely true because my experience of the physical world had been otherwise. I was experiencing contrast. 

Is the same conflict bothering you too? Well, when there is non-congruency, it is hard to embody the energy of abundance. Thus, with experiencing scarcity in the physical world, you hit a block each time the mind goes up against a limit. Invariably, you would tell yourself, “there is not enough”. Going up against a limit can set off panic buttons or alarm bells.

To beat money scarcity, you may have even chase after ways to plug the hole. You find yourself working a lot harder and longer, which if you are to reflect, rarely fixes the problem of scarcity or limit that exists in the mind.

Money Scarcity Life Lessons

What Money Scarcity is NOT Teaching You

Money is being printed based on monetary policies by the central bank or government, so technically there is lots of cash in the financial system. Hence a situation of financial lack is only true according to your own physical experience of money.

A situation of money scarcity is not teaching you to dwell in misery. It is certainly not asking you to keep awake at night. Or to blame your spouse, the government or tax authorities either.

Let’s acknowledge that there can be limits in the physical world where certain resources are limited and hence, you experience scarcity. On the other hand, it helps to remember that scarcity and limits can also be a construct of the ego. When you identify too much with limiting thoughts, you can hold yourself back from achieving what you do want. 

spiritual being in human experience

If you can recall, your soul did choose to experience scarcity in an incarnation, so that it can embody the truth of its divine nature. Contrast allows for experiential knowing. Your soul can only know abundance through having a contrasting situation in a physical life. It’s like you will not know what cold is without the contrasting experience of heat. Or it’s hard to figure out what love is without going through fear in an experience.

An experience of financial lack is something that you can choose to reverse. As much as we can undertake measures or strategies to “make more money”, it also involves an inside-out approach where you first reawaken to the truth. By reminding yourself the truth of your being and reconnecting with  sense of worthiness , you can then make the inner shift that often translates to manifesting the truth on the outside: that abundance (including money) is actually available to you!

What Money Scarcity is Teaching You Instead

Remember this: limits are not dead ends.

What scarcity is truly teaching you is about appreciating what is important:

* Are you appreciating life?

* Are you making the best use of a limited life span?

* Are you making the best use of limited resources?

* Are you embracing what appears to be finite: time, money and the life energy of your family and friends?

In short, scarcity is teaching you to redirect your focus.

When you start to put your attention on the things that matter, illusion dissolves. There is no need to grasp, cling or hanker for something out there because there is already the richness of life! Indeed, this is where you practice gratitude! 

Material things do not last. Money doesn’t. You become awakened to the truth that you are a divine soul. In that moment of deep realisation, your soul recognises abundance as a quintessential quality of its eternal being. It is when you embody the inner experience of the awakening that true abundance manifests in the physical world.

Would like to make a Relation-SHIFT in the way you think and feel about money and yourself? Check out my course on Transforming Your Relationship with Money here…

Transform Relationship with Money Course Banner
Transform Your Relationship with Money Course

Share your thoughts with what scarcity or money scarcity is really teaching you in the comments below 🙂

Love and abundance always,
Evelyn Lim 
Abundance Coach
Life Coach for Women

P.S. Have got money blocks that you’d like to address? 

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What is Money Scarcity REALLY Teaching You

self-help

If you are experiencing the struggle over financial lack, it can be challenging to see the lessons money scarcity offers. You are in emotional struggle when you feel worry, frustration and stressed out. Many of us do find it hard to have clarity when we experience emotional overwhelm. Through this article, I hope to shed some insights that have personally helped me create a shift in my relationship with money

For a start, it may seem impossible to will away the perception of scarcity. After all, limits are very much a natural part of our physical life. Just think about it, there is 24 hours in a day, 60 minutes in an hour and 60 seconds in one minute. You have got to finish the work that needs to be done within a certain time frame.

Then, there is also ageing and the cycle of life and death. The physical world has some kind of built-in mechanism where conditions and limits are already preset.

It was also where my confusion came in as well.

For a long time, I had trouble reconciling the ideas of abundance and scarcity. There is the experience of scarcity at physical life because we cannot escape time-space constraints and yet, metaphysical teachers say that the Universe is one of abundance and that we are infinite. So it feels as if both these ideas are on polar ends.

My mind just could not fully grasp or make sense of having scarcity and abundance co-exist together. Hence, no matter how hard I tried to “will” myself to believe that the Universe is abundant, I had the niggling doubt that it could be absolutely true because my experience of the physical world had been otherwise. I was experiencing contrast. 

Is the same conflict bothering you too? Well, when there is non-congruency, it is hard to embody the energy of abundance. Thus, with experiencing scarcity in the physical world, you hit a block each time the mind goes up against a limit. Invariably, you would tell yourself, “there is not enough”. Going up against a limit can set off panic buttons or alarm bells.

To beat money scarcity, you may have even chase after ways to plug the hole. You find yourself working a lot harder and longer, which if you are to reflect, rarely fixes the problem of scarcity or limit that exists in the mind.

Money Scarcity Life Lessons

What Money Scarcity is NOT Teaching You

Money is being printed based on monetary policies by the central bank or government, so technically there is lots of cash in the financial system. Hence a situation of financial lack is only true according to your own physical experience of money.

A situation of money scarcity is not teaching you to dwell in misery. It is certainly not asking you to keep awake at night. Or to blame your spouse, the government or tax authorities either.

Let’s acknowledge that there can be limits in the physical world where certain resources are limited and hence, you experience scarcity. On the other hand, it helps to remember that scarcity and limits can also be a construct of the ego. When you identify too much with limiting thoughts, you can hold yourself back from achieving what you do want. 

spiritual being in human experience

If you can recall, your soul did choose to experience scarcity in an incarnation, so that it can embody the truth of its divine nature. Contrast allows for experiential knowing. Your soul can only know abundance through having a contrasting situation in a physical life. It’s like you will not know what cold is without the contrasting experience of heat. Or it’s hard to figure out what love is without going through fear in an experience.

An experience of financial lack is something that you can choose to reverse. As much as we can undertake measures or strategies to “make more money”, it also involves an inside-out approach where you first reawaken to the truth. By reminding yourself the truth of your being and reconnecting with  sense of worthiness , you can then make the inner shift that often translates to manifesting the truth on the outside: that abundance (including money) is actually available to you!

What Money Scarcity is Teaching You Instead

Remember this: limits are not dead ends.

What scarcity is truly teaching you is about appreciating what is important:

* Are you appreciating life?

* Are you making the best use of a limited life span?

* Are you making the best use of limited resources?

* Are you embracing what appears to be finite: time, money and the life energy of your family and friends?

In short, scarcity is teaching you to redirect your focus.

When you start to put your attention on the things that matter, illusion dissolves. There is no need to grasp, cling or hanker for something out there because there is already the richness of life! Indeed, this is where you practice gratitude! 

Material things do not last. Money doesn’t. You become awakened to the truth that you are a divine soul. In that moment of deep realisation, your soul recognises abundance as a quintessential quality of its eternal being. It is when you embody the inner experience of the awakening that true abundance manifests in the physical world.

Would like to make a Relation-SHIFT in the way you think and feel about money and yourself? Check out my course on Transforming Your Relationship with Money here…

Transform Relationship with Money Course Banner
Transform Your Relationship with Money Course

Share your thoughts with what scarcity or money scarcity is really teaching you in the comments below 🙂

Love and abundance always,
Evelyn Lim 
Abundance Coach
Life Coach for Women

P.S. Have got money blocks that you’d like to address? 

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