Month: August 2019

[Case Study] How Clearing Money Blocks Helped Kay Release Childhood Pain

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Have you ever wondered what it’s like to work on clearing money blocks?

If so, I’d like to share the client notes that I have recorded down about Kay* with you. While Kay is not her real name, she is an actual person. She had first presented a situation and background, that was similar to other clients I had worked with.

Typically, when we start to work together and dig deep, we would find that much of the blocks stem from childhood. These blocks arise from memories that have been repressed for a long time. For clearing money blocks, my intent is to help clients address the root cause of their issues. As Tom Robbins, a best-selling novelist, who is often quoted says, “It is never too late to have a happy childhood.” Whatever has happened in the past, we would find that it is possible to repair their childhood wounds, turning their scars into stars that shine light!

Because the alchemy sessions are experiential, the process is an awakening of sorts. It doesn’t matter if I am conducting these sessions online or in-person. They would know that something has shifted internally; with indicative signs such as a dissolution of the sharp pain over their heart, a lifting of the heaviness in the head or a lightening of the weight on their shoulders, etc. Clients find the changes in body sensations coupled with receiving insights, as pretty much transformative!

Let’s find out what took place for Kay….

Clearing Money Blocks Childhood Pain

What Prompted Kay to Pursue Clearing Money Blocks

When Kay – 41-years old and mother to two young kids – first approached me, she was feeling desperate. Tears flowed down uncontrollably as she related her story. She was in a lot of emotional pain.

Kay realised that her lack of confidence and mood swings were costing her with attracting the sales that she needed. Kay also suspected that she had huge money blocks as she often faced the pattern of having barely enough to survive even prior to marriage. She needed help to release her money blocks.

That was when I found out more of what had happened to her.

Kay was on the brink of divorce. Her asking for a divorce would have happened sooner if she had not tried to hang on for the sake of their two young kids and her worry over finances. She wanted out because she had realised that she was in a toxic relationship for a long time.

Her husband was emotionally abusive and manipulative. Over the years, while she became more interested in yoga and spirituality, he wasn’t. They had drifted apart with different interests. Their constant quarrels weighed her down.

Kay finally realised that “enough was enough” with the last argument they had. Her husband had attempted to stop her from attending meditation classes. He was against her undertaking spiritual activities that he felt was a a “waste of time” and money.

Kay desperately needed her life to change. Her situation seemed dire. Kay urgently needed to learn how to stand on her own two feet and find a more consistent source of income with financial independence. She would like to have her two kids stay with her.

Kay had to get a new home with the divorce pending. Based on her circumstances, she figured that the best she could do was to become a real estate agent. Getting out of bed to service clients on bad days was a real challenge.

Clearing Money Blocks From Childhood Issues

During the private session, Kay shared that she had felt “unwanted” with the collapse of her marriage. Then again, it wasn’t a new feeling. She had been suffering from low self-esteem for a long time.

When we started to work together, Kay recalled specific memories in her childhood that still bothered her today. Her parents had divorced when she was 6 years old. Their intense frequent arguments left Kay traumatised. Her mother who was aggrieved and felt bitter by the divorce, had left Kay pretty much on her own. Her 6-year old self felt alone, “unwanted”, abandoned and like a “nobody”.

Kay was in tears when she finally plucked up courage to “meet” her 6-year old. She immediately recognised her inner child who was wearing hand-me-down clothes given by her well-to-do cousins. The clothes were unfortunately too big for her small frame. She was often ridiculed in school about her dressing. Her 6-year old was looking extremely miserable.

With guidance, Kay found out that her inner child or wounded child had been holding on to hurt and pain. She also realised that her younger self had inherited the same beliefs as her mother. Her mother had the beliefs of “I am not good enough” and due to her own issues, would often reaffirm that “money is the root of all evils”.

Kay found out how the negative patterns formed quickly became a common theme in her life. She discovered why she would end up in relationships with partners who were bad for her, leaving her in debt and in dire straits. Kay also finally understood why and how she had contributed to her own marriage collapse and the core reason behind her issues with finances.

Kay realised that she had been operating in poverty consciousness all this time. She needed to change the stories that she was creating in her mind. Her realisations were deep because they were made at the subconscious level. Fortunately, it is possible to tap away the money blocks, rewrite the past and reverse the programming.

What Was Done to Help Kay

Belief Change at Subconscious Level. After Kay had understood what her lessons were, we worked on changing her beliefs at the subconscious. From “not good enough”, I helped her to install beliefs about being worthy and deserving.

Inner Child Healing. Throughout, we worked together with her inner child or wounded child to overcome her feelings of being unwanted and abandonment. The 6-year old wanted clothes that fitted her. She selected a bright yellow dress that brought out the sunshine in her personality. We worked on integrating the energetic picture of a happy child.

Change in Money Story. We cleared her old money beliefs and went on to reimprint Kay’s subconscious with a new story – one that would support her with attracting a money breakthrough and a new reality.

Resourceful State. We worked on shifting Kay into a more resourceful state. From feeling helplessness, she was able to empower herself with creative problem solving and the willingness to be open to new possibilities.

The Aftermath from Clearing Money Blocks

Collapsing the old stories that Kay once had set her free. She experienced shifts as she released her emotional disruptions. From having embraced her inner child, she tuned into a sense of “coming home”. (I equate this to being self-love that she had integrated – a return to wholeness.)

Kay was happy to have worked on clearing money blocks through releasing her childhood pain. In fact, as she discovered, she was no longer as bothered about her financial situation. She was less uptight over things and felt more at ease with herself.

I was delighted to hear from Kay a few weeks later when she reported that she’s been attracting new prospects. The installation of the belief that she is “good enough” had helped to improve her self-esteem. She was able to go for networking events to promote her services confidently.

Kay worked hard both externally and internally through processing her resistances. She went on to selling three properties with a lot less struggle. That gave her enough assurance that she could be independent. She was able to afford rent and to move out to a new apartment after 4 months.

My Thoughts

All in, I was happy to have helped Kay. It was great that she took responsibility and committed to working on herself for clearing money blocks. Kay is now in a more resourceful state to deal with ongoing life challenges. I’m proud of how far she has come. That’s empowerment for her!!

Much love,
Evelyn Lim
Abundance Coach for Women in Business

P.S. f you have further questions and/or would like to find out more about how a session can help you with your issues, please apply for a 30-minute complimentary call here!

Related Articles:

1. What is Wounded Child Healing

2. How to Solve the Root Cause of Your Money Story

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9 Reasons Why You’ll Love Dating Mature Women

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People of all ages go on dates. But mature women know that dating for them is different from dating in their twenties and thirties. And those who date them have noticed. Simply put, a mature woman in relationships behaves differently from her twenty- or thirty-something self. She’s learned more about who she is, and she’s […]

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Treating Anxiety Without Medication: 6 Natural Remedies

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Are you interested in treating anxiety without medication? Thankfully there are a range of natural remedies you can try. Read on… We are living in an increasingly busy and complex world. The digital age has not only brought us some […]

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5 Steps to Making 2016 the Best Year of Your Life (Free Download)

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I absolutely love this time of year!

It’s a time for celebrating and getting together with family. It’s a time for reflecting on all of your achievements for the year. It’s a time for backyard cricket and it’s a time for beach, sun and plenty of outdoor activities (at least here in Australia!).

But it’s also a time that I use to plan ahead for the next year. 2016 is now just one week away and I absolutely love kicking off each New Year in style!

If you want to get serious results in your life or business in 2016 then it’s important you are clear on what you are doing and when you are doing it and ensuring it’s actually scheduled.

Nothing gets done unless it’s scheduled.

That’s why today I want to share with you a simple but powerful tool that I use to ensure that I am clear and focused on what needs to get done in the following year.

It all starts with this 2016 calendar…

2015 Yearly Planner

 

5 Steps to Scheduling the Best Year of Your Life

Scheduling your lifestyle and the activities you plan to do in 2016 will help you to forecast your income and ensure your life is balanced the way you desire it to be.

So often people have a dream and a vision for their life but they don’t spend the time to actually map out what that looks like.

  • If you want to take more holidays, schedule them in!
  • If you want to make more money by developing and selling a product or service, schedule it in!
  • If you want to  achieve major goals like completing a marathon or losing 20kg of weight, schedule the deadline in!

Here’s how I plan out my year. Feel free to copy or adjust it or add to it depending on what you’re trying to achieve in your life.

 

Step 1) Schedule all of the birthdays of your family and your closest friends.

It’s important to celebrate with those closest to you and having it scheduled reminds you of planning ahead to get something special and also so you keep the date free.

 

Step 2) Schedule all of the holidays you wish to take.

For this, start with the public holidays. If you’re in Australia, I’ve already scheduled the public holidays for you in the template. Otherwise, delete the Australian holidays and insert the public holidays for your location.

Next, schedule the time your leave from your job or the time off you wish to take from your business. Next year, I’m planning to take a break once every 3 months and take a short trip somewhere with Sylvia.

Scheduling holidays is super-important. It gives you something to look forward to which keeps you engaged during the time you’re working, but it also serves as a time to relax, rejuvenate and refocus on what you’re achieving in your life.

 

Step 3) Schedule the major business/career events that you want to achieve.

For example, I’ve scheduled the product launches, community challenges or other promotions that I plan to do in 2016 for my business. This provides me clarity on what I need to focus on and when as well as a better prediction of my income for the year.

 

Step 4) Schedule weekly or regular activities that you will need to complete to move you towards your larger goals.

For example, I’ve scheduled when I’m going to be publishing a blog post or video to my business. Although I haven’t yet determined exactly what each blog post is going to be about, I’ve given each date a general topic that I will be covering which feeds back to what you have asked to know more about (eg, is it Personal Development or is it Business).

 

Step 5) Schedule the due dates of your goals for the year or any other ad-hoc activities that you want to accomplish.

This is another great way of reminding you of the major goals you’re trying to achieve. As you have already scheduled your major work commitments, this could be any other goal related to your health, relationships, finances, personal growth, fun & recreation or physical environment.

To see how satisfied you currently are in each of the different areas of your life, do the Wheel of Life assessment. It takes 5 minutes and provides a great starting point for this exercise.

 

Entering the New Year With Clarity

This process doesn’t take long to do. I whipped my calendar up a couple of days ago in about an hour. Over the next few days I’ll be fine-tuning it.

Going into the New Year with clarity on how many days you’re going to have off versus how many days you’re going to be spending on creating versus how many days you’re going to be spending on promoting etc really helps you to feel calm and collected about the year ahead.

You can enter the New Year with full knowledge that your life is going to be balanced and that you will achieve the things that you have planned to do (as long as you stick to it). It will also help you to avoid getting stressed or overwhelmed.

Next Year I have 117 days scheduled to be off. This means I’m going to be working for the remaining 248 days. Now that I know this, I have a real sense of peace knowing that about 1 in every 3 days for the whole year is going to be a day that I can relax and do anything I wish to that I haven’t planned for.

It also gives me comfort that I can better predict how my year is going to unfold and how much income I’m going to make from my businesses.

 

Your Turn

I’ve given you the tool and the process for getting clarity on the year ahead. Now, my challenge to you is to take 30 minutes, right now, and create your year. At this time of year, lots of people talk about making the next year their best ever but few actually take the time to plan it out and make it so.

If you can’t do it right now, then schedule 30 minutes to do it in the next few days.

If you know of someone that might benefit from this tool and process, I encourage you to share this with them.

For now, have a VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS! Sylvia and I are heading to my parents place where we’re having a big family gathering and a huge, food bonanza. Weather depending, I’m hoping to sneak in a few games of backyard cricket 🙂

Enjoy!

Brendan

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Every Thorn bush has a Rose

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“Some people are always grumbling because roses have thorns; I am thankful that thorns have roses.” ~Alphonse Karr

It’s easy to speak of the roses attached to the thornbushes of life. It’s much more difficult to actually see the roses when the thorns have been pushed deep into the flesh of our hearts. We bleed and hurt as everything starts to look very much the color of blood and feel like daggers piercing our flesh.

Inner Toughness

There is a study that looked at the most accomplished Americans and found 30% of them had lost a parent at a young age. That’s an astounding overrepresentation of those who have suffered great loss among those who have achieved great success.

Perhaps the independence it forced on them at a young age also produced an inner toughness that allows them to more easily push past obstacles that tend to derail others.

The pain and trials, the obstacles and challenges life throws our way can either crush us or strengthen something inside of us that was weak or underdeveloped before the trial came our way. We can come out stronger, more compassionate, kinder, courageous and confident as a result of having to do what we normally would not have to.

Heat Melts … and Refines

Fire burns. But it also cleans, purifies and refines. Heat melts. But out of that act of melted elements, steel is born and titanium is created. Pressure crushes. But it also produces diamonds.

Inside all of us is the as-yet undiscovered greatness of a champion. Beneath the surface of our untested and undeveloped selves, is something amazing. Sometimes it requires a swift kick by life to get us to scratch below the surface of our potentials.

Digging Deeply

We have so much to offer and yet so few of us offer very much. I believe it is primarily because so few of us are required to dig very deep.

Our lives go swimmingly along, riding the current of mediocrity. Inner resolve is never tapped. Inner strength is never realized. Courage is seldom required in our daily swim through life.

But for those who get sucked into the rapids, they drown … or they develop the ability to swim against the current. They build character and emotional muscles those who never swim in the rapids of life never have to develop.

A few proactively go out and build those muscles on their own. But most of us wait until swimming upstream is a matter of life or death.

To Float or to Swim

Floating requires very little of us, so life tosses us in the deep end from time to time and pulls us out to sea a bit to get us swimming against the current for a while.

Then, when we finally reach shore, we find our moral muscles are noticeably tighter, our character stronger, our hearts elevated and our souls more finely tuned.

Sure, we can complain about the process, but given the results, would you truly want it otherwise?

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7 Traits of Happy and Productive People at Work

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Putting in long hours at work doesn’t always mean you’re productive.

You’re exhausted and spread thin, and you’re probably miserable to boot. You’re only going through the motions of working. You may get the job done but your output isn’t exactly your best work.

Citing a decade’s worth of research, Teresa Amabile and Steven Kramer — authors of The Progress Principle — pointed out: “People are more productive and creative when they have more positive emotions.”

Employees shouldn’t rely on the benefits and incentives that their employers give. As business owners, you can be proactive about finding happiness.

Happier You, Productive You: What You can do to be Happier NOW

  1. Be an Optimist

People are too busy these days, that’s why they’re always stressed, both in their work and private lives. Positive people not only spread good vibes, but they’re also quick to see failure as a ‘new start’ or a plot twist in their lives, instead of a reason to despair and give up.

Of course, being optimistic doesn’t mean seeing rainbows all the time. It just means that you’re focusing on the positive side of things instead of dwelling on what’s going wrong. A research at the University of North Carolina also showed that optimists see more opportunities compared to negative and neutral thinking people.

  1. Don’t be Superficial

You shouldn’t rely on material things to lift your spirits. You won’t be successful finding happiness that way. Get to know yourself and confront the issues that you feel are preventing you from being happy. Then, strengthen your bonds with the people who matter to you by spending time with them.

  1. Establish Work-Life Balance

You can’t live in your office or keep taking work home. Even if you enjoy what you do, there has to be a time for you to “disconnect” from the demands of your job so you can enjoy being with your family and friends.

When you feel that you’re overworked, just think of what writer Anne Lamott said, “Almost everything will work again if you unplug it for a few minutes, including you.” So, by all means, go on vacation. Money is important but not at the expense of your well-being.

  1. Secure Your Finances

Stop living from paycheck to paycheck. Come up with a strategy to save money so you can invest in things that matter to you.

Just be careful you don’t turn into a stressed out money miser. Money is important, but it’s not everything. You don’t need to have tons of cash. You just need to manage what you have the best way you can. Living within your means is a good start.

  1. Chill Out

Don’t be a slave to the clock. Learn to go with the flow and go on spur-of-the-moment adventures once in a while. I learned this three years ago, when I was a slave to the deadlines of the articles I’m writing. Even if I decreased my workload, I still felt burned out because all I did was work. Not surprisingly, all this changed when I took a 1-week impromptu vacation.

You don’t have to confine yourself to a strict routine. You can be spontaneous. For instance, you can decide to cancel your not-so-urgent meetings for the rest of the day so you can go home earlier to cook dinner for your family. You can also go for a quick ice cream break with your co-workers in the middle of the day. As long as you don’t neglect your tasks, you can have a little fun at work.

  1. Surround Yourself with Positive People

Jim Rohn said, “You’re the average of 5 people around you.” Being around people who like talking about their problems without doing anything about them will spoil your mood.  Even if you say you can block them out or ignore them, their toxic vibe could still infect you.

Instead, hang out with people who are supportive of your dreams. Seek out those who inspire you to be the best version of yourself.

  1. Pay it Forward

Think outside of your own little world and do something for others. According to research by Christopher A. Morrissey and Jessica L. Collett of University of Notre Dame, when you pay it forward without expecting anything in return — even an ego boost — you’re more likely to feel happy about yourself and minimize your risk for anxiety attacks.

Do volunteer work for an organization that’s helping at-risk kids. Help out at an animal shelter. Donate to your neighborhood’s soup kitchen. Doing these good deeds will give you a sense of fulfillment that’s not related to work.

If charity isn’t your thing, find a couple of small or startup entrepreneurs you believe in. Perhaps it’s a sustainable and eco-friendly yoga mat, or connoisseur coffee beans picked by farmers protected by fair-trade practices. If you believe in what they’re doing, support them. Yes, it’s not 100% charity. But your small contribution will help someone else’s dream of changing the world, while giving back to the community.

Live a Rich and Diverse Life

While it’s important to excel at what you do, your job should not be the end-all and be-all of your existence. It’s just a job, after all. It should not be a substitute for your personal dreams.

Do other things that you genuinely enjoy or try doing the things that you’ve always wanted to do. You can learn to play an instrument. You could train for the one of the world’s largest marathons such as the Boston Marathon or the Tokyo Marathon. You can even get a sideline job. If you’re an accountant who’s always dreamed of being a chef, go and sign up for culinary school!

There’s no such thing as “too late” when it comes to what makes you happy. Remember that while your career may be a big part of your life — it’s not your entire life. You’ll be a happier and more productive person if you enrich yourself with experiences and encounters that will resonate with you long after you have left the office.

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Feng Fu Point – The Ultimate Ice Therapy

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Have you ever wondered if there is some secret thing you can do that puts you on another level in life? Something that increases your energy, enhances the quality of your sleep, relieves pain and reduces symptoms of certain diseases?

Well, I’m about to share that secret with you!

It’s called Feng Fu.

Feng Fu is common in Chinese acupuncture and it involves placing an ice cube on a specific position on the back of your neck for twenty minutes.

The Feng Fu point is a pressure point found at the base of the skull, just below the bottom ridge of the skull cap at the top of the neck. Stimulating the fengu fu point with an ice cube once or twice a day will promote overall health and wellbeing and make you feel like a rockstar!

Benefits of the Feng Fu Point Ice Therapy

There are a number of reported benefits to Feng Fu ice therapy. According to Chinese traditional medicine, this therapy rejuvenates the entire body and by bringing it back to its natural physiological balance. Pretty cool, right?

When you place an ice cube on the Feng Fu point as outlined above (and do it consistently each day), it can benefit you in the following ways:

  • Reduce headaches, joint pain and tooth ache
  • Reduce and eliminate the effects of a cold
  • Improve your sleep quality
  • Improve your overall cardiovascular system
  • Improve your digestive system
  • Reduce the symptoms of asthma
  • Reduce the symptoms of arthritis, hypertension and hypotension
  • Cure sexually transmitted diseases
  • Manage neurological disorders and spinal degeneration
  • Manage thyroid disorders
  • Manage impotence, infertifily and menstrual disorders
  • Manage obesity, manlnutrition and gastronintestinal tract
  • Manage stress, chronic fatigue, insomnia and depression

With a list this good, why wouldn’t you give it a try?!

How to Find the Feng Fu Point

  1. While lying down (or with your head leaning forward), use your hands to touch the back of your neck
  2. Feel the point where the bottom of your skull meets your neck.
  3. You should be able to feel an “indent” in your neck between your two neck muscles as shown in the diagram belowfeng-fu
  4. If you’re having trouble finding it, try tilt your head back so you can feel your neck muscles better. In the middle of them you will find the depth of the Feng Fu point.

How to do the Feng Fu Ice Cube Method for Healing

Doing the Feng Fu ice therapy on yourself is incredibly easy. All you need to do is follow the 4 simple steps below:

  1. Lie flat on your stomach and make yourself comfortable
  2. Place an ice cube directly on the Feng Fu point at the back of your neck
  3. Leave the ice cube on the Feng Fu point for 20 minutes
  4. Feel the benefits!

If you are not in a place to lie down then sitting is fine too. You can secure the ice cube by using a bandage, scarf or other material on your hand.

For maximum benefit, professional acupuncturists recommend doing the treatment twice a day – first thing in the morning and last thing at night.

When you first apply the ice cube, you may feel the strong cold sensation pass through your body and you might find it uncomfortable. Hang in there! Withing 30 to 40 seconds or so you should feel the heat go straight to the Feng Fu point.

In the first few days of putting ice on your Feng Fu point you may experience some euphoria due to the release of endorphins into your bloodstream.

My Experience

I have been placing an ice cube on my Feng Fu point once a day for the past week and I definitely feel benefits. I find it similar to meditation… it’s just so nice to lie down, have some ice on your neck (particularly in Summer) and feel your body be taken to another place. I have an overall general sense of greater wellbeing.

Placebo?

Who knows… but placebo or not, it’s works! So I’m going to keep doing it.

Note: Therapists recommend that if you are pregnant, have a pacemaker or suffer from schizophrenia or epilepsy to NOT do this method. Why? I’m not sure.. but speak with your local acupuncturist and they will probably be able to tell you 🙂

Your Thoughts?

Try it out! I’d love to hear your thoughts…

What do you experience?

Do you feel any of the benefits above?

Please share your experience by leaving a comment below and if you feel this method can help someone, please share it with them.

Brendan

 

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